IC Dating Protocol
Once you get number:
Step 1: Get Her out
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- Text her “call back humor” relating to your initial interaction.
- Exchange a couple flirty texts
- Know your venues
- Tell her out
- Confirm date the day of
- Send a playful text/meme just before she arrives
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Step 2: First Date: Venue One – Connection
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- Venue 1 = lively, public bar or coffee shop
- When she shoes up on the date, you order drinks and instruct her to find seats. “Listen up, I’ve got a job for you, can I trust you? I want you to find two seats, and I’ll get the first round.” This will free you up to order in peace and avoid the awkwardness of trying to have an interesting conversation while ordering. When you sit down, congratulate her on a job well done choosing the seats or tease her for finding seats next to weirdo’s. “Why’d you sit us with the weirdo’s, is it because you feel more comfortable around your kind?”
- Conversation over the first drink
- Have a past, present, future conversation.
- Past: “Where are you from? Where did you go to school? How many siblings do you have?” Etc…
- Present: “Where do you work? What do you do for fun? What are you most passionate about?” Etc…
- Future: “What do you want to be when you grow up? What are your goals? Where do you see yourself in 10 years?” Etc…
- Make sure you have the answers to all of your own questions that are interesting, humorous and show you in the best possible light.
- **Pro Tip: During the first 30 minutes of the date, she should be doing roughly 90% of the talking. The person asking the right questions is driving the conversation and in control. As you improve you’ll become so dynamic that you’ll eventually be able to do 90% of the talking and sell her on the dream (you) Think of this as the difference between a good salesman and a master closer. A good salesman asks the right questions to get the customers to sell themself on the product. A master closer gives an amazing pitch, sells the dream and people jump out of their chairs to buy whatever he is selling.
- Ask open ended questions, follow up with filler and then ask another question. (QFQ = Question/Filler/Question)
- She will answer with keywords and your job is to follow the emotional thread of the conversation.
- Example: If money was no object, how would you spend your time?
- “I would spend more time volunteering at the animal shelter and working with dogs.”
- “Wow, I love dogs but I’ve never done that before. I’d imagine you feel pretty good about the world after doing something like that…? (here you are allowing her to finish her sentence and talk about how it impacts her emotionally
- **Pro Tip: Don’t worry if the conversation doesn’t go to plan or you skip/miss questions, these are only in place so you don’t have to worry about running out of things to say.
- To avoid the conversation becoming too much like an interview and falling into the friend zone you need to occasionally tease her and break rapport.
- Tease her on her strengths, not her weaknesses.
- Height is usually a safe bet. “How tall are you? 5”6, I don’t believe you, stand up (grab her hand and lead her out of her chair and spin her around) Ok I lied, I know you’re 5’6 I just wanted to check out your butt.
- Use the “Lie and get caught technique” – exaggerate and tell an absurd story that couldn’t possibly be true and when she calls you out for lying say “Ok you caught… I lie to girls to make myself sound cooler, I know I’m a dork.”
- Casually interrupt the conversation and ask her for a mint. “Mint? Just in case you try to kiss me later.”
- If she says something cheeky “Give me your hand” Slap it and say “You’re a bad influence on me, my mom told me to watch out for girls like you.”
- Promoting my realm: beating up everything I am not and promoting everything I am. Musicians vs. Athletes
- Disagreeing: Make sure you are very knowledgeable on the subject in case the conversation leads to an argument. If you can shift a woman’s view on something she will have massive respect and attraction for you. (Coral story)
- Submission Points: Anything cool/crazy you’ve seen, shit you’d like to do, things you’re really good at. Call me with a list that you do really well, shit you’d like to do, shit you’ve done, selling points, etc… Speaking French, riding street bikes, house burning down, getting arrested in France (mistaken identity) (Belgrade bribing cop) (camera up the dick) (high stakes poker stories)
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- Mentoring: “Jewish people are really lucky” story. “Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.” If in a big city, don’t disagree with liberal shit. Know your audience.
- Poke and Prod to find out who she is. If she’s a partier, tell cocaine stories. If she’s a good girl, tell her about going 4 years without a drop of alcohol. Have a pro-American speech and a pro-European speech. “Americans are so bland and boring.” “American’s have no culture bullshit.” “Fuck Europe go America speech.” If someone says “American’s are dumb.” They all say because we only speak one language. Canada speaks English, ocean, ocean, can’t go to Mexico cuz you’ll get kidnapped, takes 8 hours to fly anywhere. Pop culture is English worldwide, what reason would an American have to ever learn another language. If you live in Germany, you have to know other languages. Europeans don’t speak pop culture, but pop culture is more valuable. Education, medical advancement awards, first to mars, win the Olympics, we have different priorities. No one cares about 17th century art in the US because it doesn’t exist for us.
- Role Playing – Depending on keywords in the conversation, you can setup a role play dynamic which establishes comfort and attraction. “Wow you’re a good cook and you look like this. I think we should get married but only if you promise that I can be the stay at home dad. I don’t wanna work but I want a prenup stating that I get the lakehouse, cars and 401K if we split, you can have the kids though. Oh yeah and I’m very abusive, you will be spanked on the regular.” You can continue this role play for a couple minutes but make sure to drop it and go back to normal QFQ so you don’t look too goofy. You can also sprinkle this role play throughout the entire date and go back to it anytime you need some comedic relief or to break rapport.
- Touching – You don’t need to worry too much about touching during this stage of the date. If you do one of the rapport breaking touching techniques or touch her arm a couple times to emphasize points that will suffice. Do not try to touch too much or you will look weird.
- **Pro Tip: Do not use all of these rapport breakers, if you do it too much you will look like you’re trying too hard and she will lose all interest in you.
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Step 3: Venue Change (The Walk) – Fun & Connection
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- When you’re finished with a round or two of drinks (thirty minutes to an hour) announce to her “Ok, lets get out of here.” She will ask where you’re going and you can stay “We’re grabbing one more drink at another place.”
- It needs to be in walking distance of the first place or a very short cab drive away. Walking is preferable.
- Lead her out of the bar, this is a great opportunity to touch her lower back.
- Hand holding can occur if it feels natural or if you are walking across the street you can tease and say “Take my hand for protection, cross walks are very dangerous. You can tell your friends you went out with a gentleman gangster.”
- Don’t overdo the attraction material on the walk, after one zinger you can go back to normal conversation.
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Step 4: Venue Two – Intimacy
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- Venue 2 needs to be a darker, more private environment. A cocktail or quiet hookah bar is optimal where you can sit side by side. Venue two is where you shift away from normal conversation and get more intimate.
- Sit down and order your drinks from a server if possible. She may even offer to pick up the tab since you got the first round.
- The topics should no longer be about getting to know you things. It should be more about man to woman.
- Questions Game: This is the perfect time to say “ok, lets play a little game to get to know each other better. It’s really simple and you probably played before, its Truth or Dare without the Dare. Take turns going back and fort asking questions, examples:
- What is the scariest thing you’ve ever done?
- Have you ever been arrested?
- Tell me about the worst date you ever had
- How many times have you been in love?
- Where’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?
- Tell me something I’d never guess about you.
- Don’t be too funny or you’ll lose the intimacy.
- Add in lots of eye contact, slow down your speech and touch her more if she is reciprocating.
- Don’t talk about recent ex’s if the conversation goes that way say: “Whoa whoa, no ex talk yet, save that ammo for when we have our first fight.”
- This is also a great opportunity to tell stories. They can be meaningful or sexual, just make sure it doesn’t feel awkward.
- Silence in this environment is not awkward, it is sexy, especially if it accompanied by hand holding. Never look at where you are touching. If she plays with your fingers or holds your hand its time to kiss her.
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Step 5: The Kiss
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- Always go for the kiss if the above requirements are met. It will work the majority of the time and even when it doesn’t you’ll still get bonus points in her book if your respond in a non-needy way.
- When the conversation pauses, look in her eyes, then down at her lips and back to her eyes. As you move in, stoke her hair or the back of her neck.
- **Pro Tip: Grabbing her hair by the roots and gently tugging while kissing her will drive her wild if the mood is right.
- If she resists just look her in the eye and say “It’s my job to go for it, it’s your job to resist.”
- Don’t have a high school make out party, just kiss her for 5-10 seconds, pull away and tell her “you’re moving too fast, I’m not that easy, you have to buy me dinner before I put out.”
- Once you’ve had your drinks, had a kiss and some intimate conversation your first date is basically done.
- Depending on how much you want to push it you can either try to continue the date down the seduction path or end it on a high note. If you try to seduce her that night you run the risk of looking too eager and if you end up sleeping with her, you might have to deal with buyers remorse because she’ll feel like a slut. This will make it difficult to see her again. If you do end the date, walk her back to her car or call a cab, give her a light kiss goodbye and end the date.
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Step 6: Second Date – Fun
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- The second date has a different vibe. The pressure is off because you both like each other and this is the date where sex should happen. If sex doesn’t happen on this date it’s usually a red flag that she’s either not that into you, you screwed something up or it could be a cultural thing. If she won’t kiss me on the second date, I won’t bother seeing her again because I’m just in too deep of a hole and she will forever have me as her bitch, even if we do end up together. It’s important to get sex out of the way so you can see if your compatible for a relationship or if you’d like to continue seeing her casually instead.
- The second date has two parts, fun and seduction.
- The fun part is all about being playful and doing things as a couple. You can take her somewhere quirky and virtually free. Examples include the zoo, a hike, the driving range, riding bikes, laser tag, mini golf, karaoke or even a nightclub if you both like to party.
- I like to start these dates in the early afternoon to give you plenty of time before you change gears and get sexy later on. Make sure you have logistics figured out so you know how to get back to your house for the second part of the date. Sprinkle lots of flirty stuff, hand holding and some kissing throughout. Basically, treat her like she’s already your girlfriend.
- The most crucial part of the date is getting her back to your place or hers after the adventure. Don’t ask just lead. You can take her to the grocery store and make her help me get groceries for a meal I’m about to cook for her or you can just get wine and cheese. If you want to go back to her place you’ll need to figure out those logistics to make sure she can have guests and its private. If you live with your parents you can use your car, or public restroom depending on how down she is.
- Don’t be discouraged if she puts up resistance to come back to your place or have sex. That is natural, it’s her job to resist so she doesn’t look like a slut. You can beat her to the punch by calling out her objections before hand. “Were gonna swing by my place for a quick bite, but don’t get any ideas, I’m not putting out.” Or “I’m gonna cook for you, it will be slightly better than edible than I’m kicking you out, I’ve got an early work day tomorrow.” You can basically just steal her lines and she won’t be able to use them on you. Often I’ll just grab a cab or preferably an Uber and lead her in. If she asks where are we going, I’ll say “Disneyland, duh!”
- If she really can’t come back to your place or hers after the 2nd date then do some heavy kissing and setup a shared cooking and movie at your place for date 3. If she agrees to this, you’re good, if not, you’re in trouble.
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Step 7: Second Date – Sexual Escalation
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- Once back at your place or hers you’re going to get intimate again and the next logical step is sex.
- Make sure to have logistics all sorted out. Have a clean kitchen, condoms at the ready both in the bedroom and the living room, a clean bathroom, an extra unopened toothbrush, matches in the bathroom, toilet paper, your bed made, etc…
- If you cook for her, get it started right away. Involve her in the process as much as you can by making her chop things or prepare side dishes. Most girls love sushi and you’ll get massive points if you know how to prepare it and you can teach her to roll it. Pour some wine and you can get intimate while the food is in the oven or just after you finish eating. Tell her to pick some light music and tell her that your house has a no shoe rule if you can pull it off, your floors are clean and you live alone. At the very least, say it about your bedroom.
- If you’re not cooking, go into the living room and smoke hookah. You can blow smoke in each others mouths or teach her how to blow O’s.
- I like to initiate heavy making out on the couch. I’ll pull her on top of my lap while straddling me and then pick her up and carry her into the bedroom.
- If she resists your fallback is to have something to show her on your laptop which is conveniently in your bedroom. Play some funny Youtube videos, show her to find the place she grew up on Google Earth or show her pictures. It will force her to sit very close to you in bed. From there you can close the laptop and start the seduction process.
- Sexual Escalation should feel natural, not hurried or rushed. Don’t try to go from zero to sixty. Go two steps forward, one step back. The more you tease a girl who is resisting about how she is seducing you the more comfortable she will feel. The goal is to make her feel comfortable and get her out of her head. If she’s giving you a lot of tongue, moaning or grinding you, you know it’s on.
- Part of being good with women is knowing when No means no. If you inhibit her in anyway from leaving or continue to escalate after a firm no, you’re no setting yourself up for trouble. This guide and product does not take responsibility for any actions taken regarding this.
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Extras
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- Three or more dates: There are some rare circumstances when the Dating Protocol will be completed over three or four dates instead of two. If the girl is very traditional for religious or cultural reasons then this would apply, for logistical reasons or if she’s on her period. Don’t make a habit of doing this, however, as it might encourage you to avoid escalating and “playing it safe”
- If it takes until date 3 for sex that is fine but once you move into date 4 zone you have to be very careful because you’re entering murky waters. Samira story.
- The entire dating protocol can be completed in one date under the right circumstances. Instead of ending the first date after the cocktail bar, go for fun right away. There are signals to see if she is up for this sort of thing. If she tells you she doesn’t have work the next day or doesn’t have to be up late. If she is heavily making out with you. If she initiates the kiss or if she’s willing to get really drunk and party. I will usually take her to a club or strip club. From there its back to my place, pick her up over my shoulder and straight to the bedroom. If she isn’t all over you but still wants to keep hanging out, I will go the hookah route from step 7.
- If you meet her in a club you can move through the dating protocol very rapidly. Quick connection on the approach, drink at the bar, more intimate location in the club, on to the dance floor or into a cab for some fun and back to my place.
- Just be careful from the 1 date scenario, odds are you might end up not seeing her again