Context: Met on Tinder, missed getting together for like 3 weeks, finally went out Friday.
She was pretty touchy, made out in uber on way to bar #2, closed out bar 2, it’s 2am and she was going to come home with me but also had to be at work at 6:30 so ended up going home on her own instead, good call.
She was a little drunk and kinda toppled over outside the bar when we were figuring out what to do, dragged me down with her, it was hilarious.
Really like this chick a lot and she seemed enthusiastic but now don’t know where I stand.
I let it sit for for today, she never got back to me about her schedule.
Robbie’s Responses:
I think you made a mistake by not going home with her or taking her home. You let logistical hurdles like work get in the way.
I understand you were trying to do the right thing and make sure she isn’t late for her job but is that really your responsibility? She is the one getting fall over drunk 4 hours before she has to be in the office, or so she says… Clearly she didn’t really care about work that much and was enjoying your company more.
Not to mention, this is Tinder, the easiest hook up app of all time. She says “We could have fun tonight, but I pulled the plug.” Sounds like a hint that if you would have been more decisive and took her home, you would have had fun.
“But this doesn’t have to be the end, I’d have only let us have 60ish percent fun based on your curfew and our sidewalk adventure.”
Thanks Captain White Knight, Save a Ho, Dad!
Here’s a great strategy for girls you meet on Tinder who get wasted and drunk on a work night: Make an insecure comment about this being the end, remind her of her curfew and how you are a law abiding citizen, and tease her getting too drunk. Sigh…
But hey, at least she’s texting in the morning and looks like she was late for work anyway, given the 07:53 time stamp.
Joke about wrists and hospitals – GREAT!
But then you go and explain your joke “Actually I’m fine.” Oh really?!?!
I thought you were really hurt. Good joke Dad!
“I’m glad you’re mostly ok…”
Of course she is ok, why say this?
“Had a really good time…”
She knows you had a good time.
“I’d even consider doing it again.”
This is a joke and obvious sarcasm but your prior jokes followed by explanation are so bad that you risk her thinking that you might be serious and the biggest captain obvious of all time.
“It’s not bad at all, I’m more embarrassed than hurt.”
Duh… notice how your overly protective nice guy texts encourages her to explain this. Menos puntos for you sir.
“Aw, don’t be. It was a pretty solid date, you remember most of it right.”
^NEEDY AF
Rather than being chill and letting her wonder about you, you are ruining all the mystery by texting back and forth about the parts of the date that will make her feel potentially bad about her behavior.
Dark humor… probably best to stay away from early on. High risk, minimal reward.
You’d still be better off saying nothing and remaining a mystery given what has transpired.
Don’t over text!
You’ve demonstrated that you will probably create friction and cockblock her from a fun, drunken hookup if you go on a school night. She wants to fuck and she knows you want to fuck. So what are her options if she really thinks this through? She could:
a) See you on a weekend. If she has a life this won’t sound like a great option because no one with a life schedules 1st or second tinder dates on weekends.
b) Schedule for a useless school night (Monday/Tuesday) and then have second thoughts when the day approaches because she doesn’t want a repeat of the last date. Suggesting you go home early together, or having a date at your house or hers might make her feel like a slut, so she’s probably not gonna do that. But she knows you won’t do it, so that’s more reason to flake.
More evidence that this girl loves to get drunk and clearly isn’t too concerned with her career!
She’s drunk at a bar and you are jamming her into conversation about callback humor from your date. Chill out man! Save it for date #2, if she shows up for it.
I’d give it about a 50/50 chance.
Prior to all this subpar texting you were probably 95/5 to get the second date.
But you could have said everything you needed in 2/3 texts instead of a novel. It all shows over-eagerness, friction to fun and a general nice guy, boring, dad vibe.
I have a feeling this isn’t what a girl who drinks back to back on Sunday and Monday night who you met on Tinder is looking for.
