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On this episode of Inner Confidence Podcast, host Robbie Kramer and guest Mariia Kramer discuss a set of rules for single men to live by on their dating journey to attract high-quality women and get the most out of the experience. They cover topics like not investing time in a girl who’s not drinking at a club, slowing down during a date, avoiding girly drinks, and avoiding bringing up depressing topics like war during casual conversation. They also cover tips on inviting someone back to your house after a party and getting a girl’s phone number. Tune in to find out more about these rules!
Show Notes:
02:12 – Do not invest time in a girl at a bar or nightclub! – Here is why!
03:29 – “Free alcohol!” – You’re a douchebag! Learn how to sell the experience!
06:46 – “You look like mini mouse!” – We discuss why you should not tease girls too much!
09:38 – Do not discuss depressing things! – Find out why
12:41 – DON’T correct a woman – We give examples and discuss!
14:40 – “OKAY” “LOL “HA” – YOU are dead! Does she send these boring texts to you??
16:27 – Just because she’s replying does not mean she likes you! – Learn how to get the hint!
17:06 – DON’T call me! – Why you shouldn’t call her!
19:28 – Memorize what’s on the menu at your favorite restaurant! – A secret tip to impress your date!
20:21 – Don’t cock block yourself! – Don’t make this mistake!
20:44 – Don’t buy girly drinks at a bar – Avoid these “girly” drinks!
21:43 – don’t drop your drink! – Stop being clumsy…
22:38 – Don’t high five a chick! – We discuss…
26:37 – DON’T stand next to the TALL guy! – We explain why this is a BIG mistake!
27:49 – Don’t bring a coffee grinder to her parents – You should STOP being a weirdo!
28:36 – Always pay for everything on a date if you like her! – We explain this important rule!
30:40 – “When a date is set, CHILL OUT!” – WHY you should stop texting after you set a date!
32:36 – “You’re sexy” “You look hot” – DON’T comment on her IG, GET A LIFE!
33:39 – get rid of your baggy pants! – Find out how this can ruin your chances with a hot girl!
34:30 – DON’T FLIP OFF the camera! – DON’T be this guy!
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Transcript
Robbie Kramer [00:00:00]:
Always open doors for a girl if at any point you’d like your penis to be in her vagina. I lost a girl because I forgot to trim my toenails. Only chicks use straws.
Mariia Kramer [00:00:08]:
Little sucking on the little oh, my God, that’s ridiculous.
Robbie Kramer [00:00:10]:
Okay. Lol ha. You are dead. This guy, this guy’s been making all that noise. You’re drunk it out. Just fall. You could do it, right? Don’t flip off the camera. It’s really douchebag looking.
Speaker C [00:00:28]:
Welcome to the Inner Confidence podcast, where we bring you men’s dating and lifestyle advice that doesn’t suck. I’m your host, Robbie Kramer, a former collegiate golfer turned poker pro turned finance guy who became obsessed with learning about male female attraction and dynamics and passionate about teaching men how to improve and optimize their love life. Tune in each week and we’ll bring you the latest and greatest strategies on how to get more dates, how to build a thriving social circle that brings the best men and women into your life, how to become a better networker, and how to design a lifestyle that makes all your buddies jealous. If you’re new to the show, I recommend you download my First Date Protocol. It’s the best piece of content I have. It’ll help you optimize your first date and subsequent dates. And I like to connect with my listeners personally, so if you want to grab a copy of that, please send me a direct message on Instagram. I’m at Robbie Kramer. Now, let’s dive into this week’s content.
Robbie Kramer [00:01:21]:
Hey, guys. We’re back with my lovely wife, Maria.
Mariia Kramer [00:01:25]:
Hi.
Robbie Kramer [00:01:26]:
And today we’ve got a very cool episode because we’re going to be going through what I call the rule book. And these are rules that single men should really live by on their dating journey to attract the highest quality companion, to make themselves the most desirable companion for a high quality women, and how to get the most out of the experience. So we’re going to go through the rules one by one, and we’re going to get your feedback as the obviously female perspective. Some of these are going to be interesting because you are not the typical well, you’re very typical in some ways, but you have a few quirks that make you atypical. Like the fact that you don’t drink, for example, which is actually rule number one. And rule number one is do not invest time in a girl at a bar or nightclub who is not drinking, won’t drink, because 99.99% of the time she either has a serious boyfriend or is leaving very soon. Get her number and move along. So actually, that does apply to you.
Mariia Kramer [00:02:31]:
No, I agree. It’s totally accurate because first I don’t want to drink and people buy me drinks and I just put them on the table and I don’t drink them. And I don’t know, I rarely go to bars. I could go with my girlfriends, but I will leave soon because it’s not so much fun for me, I would go because it’s someone else’s birthday, and I don’t want to be, like, saying, no, I’ll go for an hour or two and I will leave. That’s why I agree. And I never, ever reach out to anyone.
Robbie Kramer [00:03:02]:
And have you ever had a one night stand where you met a guy at a club and went home with him?
Mariia Kramer [00:03:06]:
No.
Robbie Kramer [00:03:06]:
Exactly. So this rule does apply perfectly to you. It’s like, why don’t sit there and talk to her for a long time, just get the number, move along. Yeah, right. If she’s not drinking, she’s either sober driving or she’s not a good contender, so there’s no point in investing a lot of time with that girl.
Mariia Kramer [00:03:23]:
I mean, if you’re having a nice.
Robbie Kramer [00:03:24]:
Conversation, continue, make the connection, but don’t invest your entire night with her. All right. Rule number two when inviting girls back to your house for an after party, don’t use gimmicks, like free alcohol. It makes you look like a douchebag. Sell fun. Sell an experience, not items, right? So it’d be like, oh, come back. We have this awesome 1942 tequila that would make you sound like a douchebag. Oh, you got to come back and check out our awesome view that would make you sound like a douchebag. Right. You want to be like, Come back. We’re going to keep partying. It’s a bunch of really ugly, boring, and not interesting people. You’ll have no fun with it all, and then you say that she’ll obviously understand. So never sell the thing. Right? Sell the experience.
Mariia Kramer [00:04:12]:
Agree.
Robbie Kramer [00:04:12]:
Rule number three. It should be obvious, but it’s not. Don’t be a slob. And being a slob includes your home, your car, your bedroom, your kitchen. Right?
Mariia Kramer [00:04:26]:
What is a slob? A slob such a funny word. A slob.
Robbie Kramer [00:04:31]:
Somebody who’s sloppy. You know that word, sloppy?
Mariia Kramer [00:04:34]:
Like clumsy?
Robbie Kramer [00:04:35]:
No, slobby is like someone who’s dirty and not messy. Who do we know that’s a slob? You go to their room and it’s just, like, stuff everywhere. Their kitchen is disgusting or their car is really gross. Right?
Mariia Kramer [00:04:50]:
That’s bad.
Robbie Kramer [00:04:51]:
Sometimes people might get into our car and be like, this car is disgusting because there’s dogs.
Mariia Kramer [00:04:56]:
We have two large dogs. We’re married.
Robbie Kramer [00:05:00]:
Yeah, but the car is not disgusting. We don’t have a bunch of trash in there.
Mariia Kramer [00:05:04]:
No, the car is clear.
Robbie Kramer [00:05:06]:
We have Texas dog fur everywhere. In wiley’s too. But don’t be a slob. Like, if you’re going to bring a girl back to your house and your house is dirty, she’s going to judge you on that.
Mariia Kramer [00:05:16]:
No, girls will judge you on dirty shoes. If it’s dirty house, that’s like a total red flag.
Robbie Kramer [00:05:22]:
Just do yourself a favor. Keep your car, your house, anything that like your clothes. Just keep everything incredibly neat and tidy all the time. You’ll feel better. You’ll never lose a girl because you were unkept. One time I lost a girl because I forgot to trim my toenails, and I wore sandals on a date. So broken two rules there. Never wear fucking sandals on a date. I was living in San Diego, like, by the beach. Like, yeah, sandals. This is the bad look. And I didn’t trim my toenails. And I found out later, I think nine months later, I texted her. I was like, hey, just randomly, I’m trying to improve my dating life. Why did you decide to stop going out with me? Because she was into me. She was making out with me on the first date. This was the second date. And she’s like, because he had really disgusting toenails, and I was totally turned off. I’m like, wow, thank you for the honesty. I trimmed them. You want to keep going out? She’s like, no, I’m good. So you only get one chance to fuck that up. Rule number four once you have a date locked up and you’re getting love, do not continue gaming. Slow down the witty banter. If you don’t slow down, you look like a comedian or you look immature. So you know what we mean by this?
Mariia Kramer [00:06:37]:
No.
Robbie Kramer [00:06:40]:
Once a girl you know, a girl’s into you because you’ve been flirting with her a lot, and she’s, like, giving you all the signs, you don’t have to keep hitting her with more teasing or banter or attraction material. Remember it was like that Minnie Mouse story I told you the other day, how I kept teasing this girl because she looked like Minnie Mouse? And then eventually she said, like, hey, you got to stop teasing me because I actually really like you. And that’s when I went for the kiss. And that was lucky because that’s kind of, I think, the only time any girl has ever literally told me, don’t do this, do that, because I like you. Girls just won’t say that stuff. But if you keep hammering her with banter material teasing, eventually she’s going to be like, all right, this guy’s just like, does he like me or not? Or is he just trying to fuck with me?
Mariia Kramer [00:07:26]:
She needs, like, a first move.
Robbie Kramer [00:07:28]:
This doesn’t apply to most guys. Most guys who are probably listening to this have trouble bantering and being witty and being funny. So this is kind of like an advanced thing, because once you are very good at that, then you kind of need to tone it down. But I would say for the average guy listening, just get better at that stuff first because you’re probably boring anyways. Rule number five, throw your straw out of your glass when you get a drink somewhere. Only chicks use straws. Like a little penis, little sucking on.
Mariia Kramer [00:08:03]:
The little oh, my God, that’s ridiculous. But I’ve never seen guys using straws.
Robbie Kramer [00:08:07]:
Do you see me using a straw?
Mariia Kramer [00:08:09]:
Never.
Robbie Kramer [00:08:10]:
I mean, if it’s a smoothie.
Mariia Kramer [00:08:11]:
Yeah, right, smoothie.
Robbie Kramer [00:08:13]:
Or if it’s something like that, but like a cocktail or even a Diet Coke and they bring you a straw. Do not use a straw. It’s bad for the environment, too. Do not use straws. Even at bars, they usually give you those little stir straws in the cup. Just throw those things out. Do not use straws. Rule number six never drink from a bottle. Get a freaking glass. Any thoughts?
Mariia Kramer [00:08:40]:
No, I agree. Yeah, it looks better.
Robbie Kramer [00:08:44]:
Even if it’s a beer, don’t drink it from a bottle. Pour it into a nice cold glass. Classy. Hey, if you’re at a barbecue and there’s not, like, options for cold glasses and it’s a beer, fine. But otherwise, drink from a glass. Be civilized. Number seven always get a number. There is never a good reason to not get one. You never know when you’ll be in her town or she’ll be in yours. This is a great one. Guys will be like, oh, yeah, I didn’t bother getting her number or getting her Instagram because she doesn’t live here. What’s the point? It’s like, dude, there’s these things called airplanes, and they fly places, and the ODS of that girl never being in the same town as you again are, like, close to zero. So always get the number. Like, hey, great meeting with you. Let me grab your number before I lose you, right? Or let me grab your IG. Even if it’s like in the beginning of a conversation, if there’s some sort of connection, go for it. Get the number. Rule number eight do not discuss depressing things like people dying, getting fired, et cetera.
Mariia Kramer [00:09:44]:
That’s so bad. That’s, like, the worst. You want to leave immediately after that. Someone brought topic like that. You’re just, like, suffering, and it’s not like you will say, I don’t fucking care. I didn’t know you. You were like, yeah, I’m so sorry. You don’t know what to say. You don’t know this person.
Robbie Kramer [00:10:03]:
This happens a lot with us, actually, because people find out you’re Ukrainian, they want to ask, oh, how’s your family? How’s the war? And I’m just like, Fuck my life. I really don’t want to talk about this stuff right now because I obviously know what you’re going to say because I’m your husband, but it just kills the vibe, right? And it’s like they just do it because they think, like, oh, I should probably do that. But it’s like, what good is going to come from that conversation? How is that going to further anything? It’s just like, no, but you know, I mean, it’s one thing if it’s, like, family, but like, random acquaintances that you just meet. If I find out if I meet a girl who’s from Ukraine and I’m like, oh, how’s your family? Are they okay from the war or something? That seems like a good thing to ask, but it’s not, because it’s just not going to lead to the vibe you want in a conversation. It’s only going to lead to the vibe being killed. So don’t bring up depressing things. Rule number nine. Oh, before we go to rule number nine, I just want to ask if you would like a magic mind.
Mariia Kramer [00:11:04]:
No.
Robbie Kramer [00:11:05]:
Have you tried a magic mind before?
Mariia Kramer [00:11:07]:
No.
Robbie Kramer [00:11:07]:
Why not?
Mariia Kramer [00:11:08]:
Because I don’t know what this is.
Robbie Kramer [00:11:10]:
It’s amazing. So I was sent these from the company to see if they actually worked. And I was skeptical at first. So what it is, it’s a small I don’t know. It’s like a shot. It’s got matcha, adaptogens, nootropics immunity, and a flow state awaits you. And it’s true. When I take one of these, I get into the most amazing flow state. I feel like I can just work, like, perfectly uninterrupted. Oh, let me shake it up first. Got to shake it to get all the good stuff out of there.
Mariia Kramer [00:11:42]:
Is this better than coffee?
Robbie Kramer [00:11:43]:
They even help you. Yeah, try. You’re going to like it because it’s got matcha.
Mariia Kramer [00:11:50]:
It’s good, right? This one tastes good.
Robbie Kramer [00:11:53]:
Tastes great. Let me finish it because I need that flow state. So it’s a local company here. I think they’re in Venice. And the directions are to shake, breathe, and drink. You can take alongside your morning caffeine benefits with daily use. Best serve chilled. So it was in the fridge. So I have one of these every morning. And I got to tell you, these things work so magic mind. They’re even great for golf because you can throw them in your bag. You can take them on a plane because they’re less than, like, 100. Big fan.
Mariia Kramer [00:12:27]:
Send us more.
Robbie Kramer [00:12:28]:
Send us more, please. Hopefully some of you guys buy them. So they keep sending me more. I don’t get paid. I just get a free magic mind, hopefully. All right. Rule number nine, and I think you can get them@magicmind.com. Rule number nine, don’t correct women over trivial things. Like the population in India. It comes across as condescending, and it’s annoying. Yeah, well, now they’ve surpassed that. But I think now India has more people than China. I don’t remember. Essentially, they both have around a billion people. Over a billion people. But if you told me that we’re on a date, and you’re like, oh, yeah, india has a population of, like, 800 million, I was like, oh, actually, it’s a billion. Would that be a turn on or a turn off?
Mariia Kramer [00:13:20]:
Immediate turn off.
Robbie Kramer [00:13:22]:
Yeah. So don’t just there’s no reason to correct a woman on really anything, especially trivial things. I mean, obviously, sometimes you have to correct them, but not on trivial things. That’s rule number nine. Rule number ten, don’t put yourself in a position to look stupid. Example, if you aren’t athletic, don’t take her golfing, or don’t take her bowling, or don’t take her to something that requires you to be reasonably athletic. I feel like bowling is probably you can probably get away with bowling.
Mariia Kramer [00:13:51]:
Yeah, with bowling, you don’t need to look at letic you just throw the ball. But with other kinds of sports. I agree because only if you’re really good, you need to take your girl and she’ll be so impressed because to be good at some kind of sports, it takes a lot of time and yeah, if you take her to golf and you can hit the ball, she’ll say you’re a loser.
Robbie Kramer [00:14:13]:
Totally. Like, I used to take all my dates, usually second dates to the driving range because I could show her how to do it. I’d stand behind.
Mariia Kramer [00:14:22]:
I know. Don’t worry too.
Robbie Kramer [00:14:25]:
If you suck at it and it’s athletic, don’t take her there. You’re going to look really embarrassing. Like if you can’t throw a football or frisbee and people invite you to like, hey, want to play in this frisbee game? You should be like, no, we got to go. Actually, rule number eleven, if a girl is primarily replying to your messages with simply one word answers of okay, lol or ha, you are dead, agree. Because obviously if she likes you, she’s going to put some more thought into her response.
Mariia Kramer [00:15:01]:
Yeah, she just doesn’t want to be rude because she’s probably nice person, so she wants to reply, but she’s not into you and she wants to show you with this reply. Look, I’m not into it. Don’t write me again.
Robbie Kramer [00:15:12]:
All right. Rule number twelve, if you have been texting for more than a week and she still hasn’t committed to a date, then you are dead.
Mariia Kramer [00:15:20]:
It depends. If she knows your mutual friends or something, then yes. But if you just like strangers and you have met through the app or something, it’s still like you don’t want to go meet someone who potentially can be dangerous, right? So you want to get to know.
Robbie Kramer [00:15:39]:
Person more, but you’ve been texting for a week already.
Mariia Kramer [00:15:43]:
Yeah. Maybe you’re a serial killer and then we’ve been texting for a week already and what? I don’t know. You don’t know any of your friends.
Robbie Kramer [00:15:50]:
But you would at least commit to a date if you’re online dating.
Mariia Kramer [00:15:54]:
I don’t know. I never had online dating.
Robbie Kramer [00:15:58]:
Yeah, well, if you’re texting with a girl for a week and she still won’t commit to a date no, but.
Mariia Kramer [00:16:03]:
If you met her through the day game or somewhere else, you actually met her personally, then yes. Or she has a boyfriend or she has just some guy who she sees. Or she’s just not into it.
Robbie Kramer [00:16:18]:
Yeah, you’re dead doesn’t mean you’re dead forever, I guess. It just means you’re dead for now. This guy, this guy’s been making all that noise. He’s crazy. Rule number 13, a girl replying to your text does not mean she likes you. Most girls reply because they would feel bad not to agree. Right? So just because she’s replying doesn’t mean she likes you. She agrees to a date. Well, now you’re I mean, if she.
Mariia Kramer [00:16:43]:
Writes you first, she definitely likes you. If she responds on your stories, well.
Robbie Kramer [00:16:47]:
That’S that’s that’s not reply.
Mariia Kramer [00:16:49]:
No, I know.
Robbie Kramer [00:16:50]:
Right.
Mariia Kramer [00:16:50]:
To me that like, she does like if she just replied doesn’t mean anything.
Robbie Kramer [00:16:55]:
Rule number 14 never call a girl that you haven’t slept with is your girlfriend unless it’s for practical logistical purposes. For example, you’re parking and you need to know which side of the building she’s on. Do you want a guy to call you?
Mariia Kramer [00:17:09]:
I don’t speak on the phone with anyone. I only chat. I mean, I speak with my family or my really close friends exactly.
Robbie Kramer [00:17:19]:
And it’s like a scheduled thing.
Mariia Kramer [00:17:20]:
He’s like so rude.
Robbie Kramer [00:17:21]:
And people call you and they fucking rude.
Mariia Kramer [00:17:23]:
Don’t call me rude. Write me.
Robbie Kramer [00:17:26]:
Like, when I see my phone ringing, I get upset. Me too. And if it’s someone that I’m not expecting to call me, I am assuming it’s like some sort of crazy emergency, right? There’s like seven people that I’m okay with them calling me, and those are all, like, my extremely close friends or family. Anyone else who’s just going to call me is like, don’t call me. What are you going to call me for? Just text. All right, rule number 15 don’t open with hey, don’t I know you? You look stupid. Like in an online dating thing, I usually say no. Number 16 always open doors for a girl. If at any point you’d like your penis to be in her vagina, I open the door for you.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:13]:
Not always.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:15]:
Well, my penis has already been no, that doesn’t work.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:18]:
It will be out soon. All right, you’re pretty good, but sometimes.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:23]:
You forget that open the door. I mean, you don’t have to be like, obsessive about it. You don’t have to run around the car before she gets out and open the door.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:31]:
But I’m just talking about nice going through nice.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:34]:
Yeah, but that can be too much on a first date.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:36]:
No. Yeah. You need just to be a gentleman. But you shouldn’t forget, obviously, when you’re.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:41]:
Walking through, like, a door into a building, obviously open that door. Car doors are a little bit different because sometimes you’ve got to run around the car. But we’re talking.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:50]:
No but if you’re your car, the.
Robbie Kramer [00:18:52]:
Lavali will open the door to let her in.
Mariia Kramer [00:18:57]:
I don’t care about it. I’m just saying, if you are a gentleman, you need to continue being a gentleman and not forget about this opening door rule.
Robbie Kramer [00:19:07]:
All right, rule number 17 don’t say stuff like, girl, sexy, honey, baby, beautiful, sweetie, et cetera, unless you two are having sex, for sure.
Mariia Kramer [00:19:18]:
Someone call me honey. I’m not your honey. Don’t call me that.
Robbie Kramer [00:19:21]:
Or baby.
Mariia Kramer [00:19:22]:
Like, no.
Robbie Kramer [00:19:22]:
Sexy. Hey, sexy. Oh, my God.
Mariia Kramer [00:19:24]:
That’s bad.
Robbie Kramer [00:19:25]:
So bad. Shaking the screen there. Rule number 18 learn the menu at different restaurants and order for her when there don’t always order. Like if you know the menu, we’ll then suggest to order the meals for both of you. If it’s a sharing atmosphere, so this is kind of a cool one. Obviously if you’re going on a lot of dates you’re probably going to go to the same sort of places and never do this on the first date because dinner dates are a big no no. But if you’re on a subsequent date and either you guys have already hooked up or you’re for sure going to hook up because you’ve already made out and it’s just a foregone conclusion, it’s very attractive if you order for her and you know the menu. Very leading masculine thing to do.
Mariia Kramer [00:20:09]:
I agree.
Robbie Kramer [00:20:11]:
Rule number 19 if you’re staying at a mansion, don’t say to girls, come back to our mansion, you look like a D bag. That was kind of the same as one of those other ones. Rule number 20 don’t give a girl a reason to be into your buddy. Don’t cockblock yourself. For example, we’re in La. You meet a girl from NYC, don’t tell her, oh, my buddy Johnny is from NYC and give her a reason to connect with him. Don’t set yourself up with your friends who are really attractive, who can steal your girl. Essentially what you’re saying. Rule number 21 do not buy yourself girly drinks at the bar. This should be obvious. A girly drink would be like anything that ends in sour. Like that green drink that ends in the sour. Mom always orders it some pink drinks, like a peanut colada. Do not order peanut coladas or like a strawberry daiquiri, like anything that’s like fruity. And girly, please do not order that. You will look really, really strange and silly.
Mariia Kramer [00:21:23]:
That’s silly.
Robbie Kramer [00:21:24]:
Rule number 22 don’t ever say clubbing. That’s an 18 year olds who haven’t actually been to club. Say you’ll out yourself. You say that heading to club, going out, partying, raging are all acceptable, right? So we’re going out, going to party, we’re raging. Do not say clubbing. It’s really bad. Rule number 23 don’t ever spill. Drop your drink, you will look like a drunk moron and completely blow yourself out.
Mariia Kramer [00:21:53]:
People can control it if they’re drunk. That’s really fun.
Robbie Kramer [00:21:57]:
Don’t get too drunk. I used to do this all the time. It was so bad. I would just be like holding my drink in this sense I’d be holding my magic mind and I would just be like too drunk. And I would just fall and splash and break all over her shoes. Especially if she’s like wearing heels. And now there’s broken glass. And if you just order your peanut colada because you broke rule number 21 and then you’ve got peanut colada all over, she says do not do that. If somebody bumps you, at least pretend to blame it on them and get slightly upset so it doesn’t look like it’s your fault. Don’t be that guy who just like drinking in the drinks. He drops it like you’re screwed. Rule number 24 don’t high five fist pound instead. And don’t actually pound. So it’s painful. Do it gently. So this is a good one. It’s like, you ever beat those guys who are like, something happens. High five. It’s annoying, right?
Mariia Kramer [00:22:57]:
I know. And I don’t want to give high five. And it’s so awkward.
Robbie Kramer [00:23:01]:
I mean, if you’re watching a sports game together and something crazy happens and you’re both huge Liverpool fans and then they score, you’d be like, yeah, high five. You could do it, right? But if it’s just something like huge Liverpool like, if I find out that you’re a Liverpool fan and I’m being the huge Liverpool fan I am, if we meet at a bar and I find out you’re a Liverpool fan, like, oh, nice. You’re a Liverpool fan?
Mariia Kramer [00:23:24]:
Nice.
Robbie Kramer [00:23:25]:
Like that. And I’m not going I hate that when people like you put your fist out and they fucking hit it. Oh, it’s so painful. I want to kill them. It’s like, why are you actually hitting me with a fist on fist? It’s so awful. It’s like you just do it slowly. You just touch, right? It’s just like yeah. I mean, I have very sensitive everything dainty. Everything dainty knuckles. That was the word I was looking more don’t do that soft fist pounds. Like let them pound you. Don’t go in for it because you’ll hurt them. Number 25 don’t wear formal business shoes with casual clothes. This looks really dumb. You’re wearing, like, fancy loafers with really casual clothes. Dress shoes. Looks terrible.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:20]:
I mean, loafers are for guys, super casual. Depends which. There are a lot of casual loafers, but if you wear, like, shoes that.
Robbie Kramer [00:24:29]:
You wear with the suit yeah, if you wear with a suit, do not wear with casual T shirt.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:34]:
That’s so disgusting.
Robbie Kramer [00:24:36]:
There’ll be some stupid fashion trend that’ll come in and break this rule, but at some point all right, rule number 26 don’t wear workout gloves at any time other than inside of a gym.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:49]:
Workout gloves?
Robbie Kramer [00:24:50]:
Yeah.
Mariia Kramer [00:24:50]:
Which one?
Robbie Kramer [00:24:51]:
Like those gloves where there’s no fingertips because you’re using it to lift weights. Some guys will wear that on the way to the gym, thinking like, yeah, cool. Wear my workout gloves on the way. Girls are going to think I work out. It’s like, no, you just look like.
Mariia Kramer [00:25:03]:
Never knew they wear them.
Robbie Kramer [00:25:06]:
You still don’t really see many people wearing those in Ukraine. Anyway.
Mariia Kramer [00:25:09]:
Yeah.
Robbie Kramer [00:25:09]:
Rule number 27 introduce yourself by name when meeting people for the first time, as opposed to hey and nothing else. If it’s a rule I’ve seen it broken. Also leads to a handshake isn’t a free touch. If you meet someone, just say, hey, I’m Robbie, and shake their hand. Versus just like, we meet at a party and you’re like, hey. And I’m just like, hey.
Mariia Kramer [00:25:34]:
Yeah. You don’t know even the name. And after it’s too awkward to ask, right?
Robbie Kramer [00:25:39]:
Just like, hey, I’m Robbie. And leaves you a handshake. Rule number 28 don’t wear bring a camera to a bar or a club. You’ll look like a tourist idiot. Obviously.
Mariia Kramer [00:25:51]:
Why would you bring camera?
Robbie Kramer [00:25:53]:
I mean, a lot of guys are like photographers and they want to bring their camera and they think like, oh, I’m going to look cool. It’s like, no, you just look like you’re an idiot. Or you look like you’re hired to be like a photographer.
Mariia Kramer [00:26:04]:
Yeah.
Robbie Kramer [00:26:04]:
Don’t do that. Rule number 29, don’t hand your business card to a chick you’re hitting on in a social situation. That’s like super douchebag move. I mean, anyone who even has a business card these days.
Mariia Kramer [00:26:17]:
I don’t know.
Robbie Kramer [00:26:18]:
I’m not in the business world, so.
Mariia Kramer [00:26:20]:
I really have business cards.
Robbie Kramer [00:26:22]:
You always need them, but you never want to hand those to a girl.
Mariia Kramer [00:26:25]:
Yeah, but you have them for your business for your business purposes.
Robbie Kramer [00:26:28]:
Right. Never hand one to a girl, though. It’s really douchebag looking. Rule number 30 if you’re in a group of friends and you are the shortest guy there, don’t stand next to the tallest guy. Should be pretty obvious. But I mean, actually, I don’t think it’s obvious. That’s a pretty good rule. Just don’t stand next to that guy. It’s not a good look.
Mariia Kramer [00:26:58]:
Not just not stand. Do not make pictures with the guy who is so much cooler.
Robbie Kramer [00:27:06]:
Oh, my God. Our friend is notorious for that. He’s not even short. He’s 6ft tall. But he always positions himself next to, like, the six foot eight guy. And we’re like, what is so short? All these photos are just unusable because you look like you’re under 5ft tall. Like, do not stand by the tall guy. And if you’re the tallest guy, you should stand by the shortest guy because then you’ll just look extra tall. If you listen this podcast together, if you listen to this podcast together, then I don’t know what to tell you. One guy’s going to be doing the other thing. All right, rule number 31. If your parents would think it’s weird that your new girlfriend did it, others will think it’s weird if you did it. For example, like bringing a coffee grinder with you when you’re visiting people in another town.
Mariia Kramer [00:27:57]:
What is grinder?
Robbie Kramer [00:27:58]:
A coffee grinder. It’s like a coffee machine.
Mariia Kramer [00:28:01]:
Why would you bring coffee machine?
Robbie Kramer [00:28:03]:
You wouldn’t. That’s why people would think it’s weird, right? This example doesn’t look so listen, if your parents would think it’s weird that your girlfriend did it or your boyfriend did it, so, like, imagine I did this thing that was weird and your parents thought I was weird, right? Don’t do that thing. Others will think you’re weird.
Mariia Kramer [00:28:23]:
What the example except the copywriter?
Robbie Kramer [00:28:26]:
I don’t know.
Mariia Kramer [00:28:27]:
Such a bad example. Who would do this?
Robbie Kramer [00:28:30]:
Somebody who’s weird. We’re not weird, so we wouldn’t do that. All right. Rule 32 always pay for everything on the date. If you like her, and by like, I mean if you would like her affection at. Some point, pay. Let her pay for Cabs or Ubers if she offers. I think this is a pretty good rule. Like, if you’re the one asking her out, just pay for everything. Don’t try to split stuff. If she insists on paying for a certain thing, don’t let her. But then if she really insists, you can let her. But if you want to hook up, you’re the dude. Sorry. You should probably pay. Exceptions.
Mariia Kramer [00:29:12]:
If you invited the girl, you pay for her. If you invite her. No, there’s some you invited her to the restaurant, and then she doesn’t have money. Right? And after you ask her to split the bill. That’s rude. And just don’t invite if you can pay. I think if you invite, you pay for everything. And obviously, if she wants to pay, really let her pay.
Robbie Kramer [00:29:34]:
Well, the only exceptions would be in certain cultures where it’s like the girls would be, like, offended.
Mariia Kramer [00:29:40]:
Maybe in some Scandinavian country, scandinavian countries, they’re super offended. But, like, I would never go there. I would never go there.
Robbie Kramer [00:29:49]:
All right. Rule number 33 do not be condescending. Condescending is never a good look. Teasing is great, but there is a line, a fine line to draw. Sometimes if you’re condescending too many times, she’ll tell you to fuck yourself. So never be condescending. Teasing. Banter Swagger has them. Those are all different. But condescending is really bad. Hopefully everyone knows what condescending means. It’s like treating them as if they were less than you and stupid. Rule number 34 no running shoes with jeans. Obviously if you’re in Berlin and you’re a freeway fashion, sort of, but it depends which.
Mariia Kramer [00:30:28]:
Running shoes. There are a lot of running shoes right now that look so stylish. One even tell that they’re running shoes, but they’re like a running running shoes that look like running shoes, then yes.
Robbie Kramer [00:30:39]:
Do not wear those with jeans.
Mariia Kramer [00:30:41]:
Yeah.
Robbie Kramer [00:30:41]:
Rule number 35 don’t game a chick after a date is set up. Chill out at that point. Right? So it’s like once you have a date scheduled with a girl, you don’t need to keep sending her gamey stuff.
Mariia Kramer [00:30:54]:
You don’t need to even speak to her.
Robbie Kramer [00:30:55]:
Just confirm, confirm, confirm either the day before or the day of the date. Yeah, if there’s been a long time, like if you made the date, obviously, if you’ve listened to other podcasts, you should not try to schedule dates more than like, three or four days in advance, because the ODS of flaking are super high. But if for some reason you had to schedule a date like five days in advance or a week in advance, you confirm the day before. Right. And if you schedule the date like, two days ago, then you confirm the.
Mariia Kramer [00:31:24]:
Day the same day.
Robbie Kramer [00:31:26]:
Yeah, and don’t game her after you’ve done that, because it just looks weird. Rule number 36 use language, viewsarticulation, energy that is suitable for your audience. So if you hate Barcelona. It’s really dumb and a waste of your time to tell a 21 year old party girl that you hate Barcelona. It will totally not resonate with her and turn her off. Right?
Mariia Kramer [00:31:52]:
She loves Barcelona.
Robbie Kramer [00:31:54]:
Name a young girl who doesn’t like Barcelona.
Mariia Kramer [00:31:59]:
Even if they haven’t been there.
Robbie Kramer [00:32:00]:
Barcelona. I personally do not like Barcelona.
Mariia Kramer [00:32:04]:
I’ve never been there, but I want to go there.
Robbie Kramer [00:32:05]:
Right?
Mariia Kramer [00:32:06]:
The thing is not about Barcelona. It’s about stuff. Like, you don’t need to tell a girl that you hate something because you still don’t know her and maybe she loves what you hate. And it will be like immediate red flag. If you say, I hate animals and she has like five cats at home, she will say fuck off immediately.
Robbie Kramer [00:32:24]:
Right. Know your audience is essentially what that is. A next one. Never, ever, ever send three texts following her. One text if she is not responding, ever. That’s called triple texting. It’s never going to work. Rule number 39 no woman who has ever put up an attention seeking slutty picture on Instagram has slept with a chump who raced into comment sexy or you look hot. Don’t comment. Get a fucking life. Would you ever sleep with a guy who commented on one of your photos? Like sexy or hottie or stunner?
Mariia Kramer [00:33:02]:
No, of course not. Don’t speak to those people. I don’t know why they even like I I don’t really want know why do they comment? Because, like, I don’t think no one ever, ever responded to these messages.
Robbie Kramer [00:33:16]:
No one got laid from doing that.
Mariia Kramer [00:33:18]:
I have a lot of Liverpool fans, so when I post some livable pictures and write some something about the season or stuff, I have a lot of comments and we just discuss stuff in the comments. But I don’t even speak to those people and messages. I would never write them. But like, in the comments, I speak to them because I’ll speak about soccer. But yeah, the sexy comment, it’s weird.
Robbie Kramer [00:33:41]:
The next rule. Rule number 40. The only thing worse than a guy in a suit that is too big is a guy in pants that are too baggy.
Mariia Kramer [00:33:49]:
Oh, you will tell me about baggy pants.
Robbie Kramer [00:33:52]:
I have no baggy pants.
Mariia Kramer [00:33:54]:
How are your those shitty pants that looks like 15 people poo?
Robbie Kramer [00:33:57]:
Oh, that I wear to walk the dogs?
Mariia Kramer [00:33:59]:
Yes.
Robbie Kramer [00:33:59]:
Okay. Well, I agree. That’s why I only wear them to walk the dogs in front of my wife.
Mariia Kramer [00:34:05]:
I don’t want to you wear in front of me wearing front of someone.
Robbie Kramer [00:34:08]:
All right, next rule. A guy should not own a white iPhone.
Mariia Kramer [00:34:11]:
I don’t care if you own this.
Robbie Kramer [00:34:13]:
I think it’s kind of girly, a white iPhone.
Mariia Kramer [00:34:15]:
White? No. If you like white color, yeah, it’s not super common, but I would personally not care if it’s a nice clean iPhone. That’s good because you can own black iPhone. It’s like fully broken, dirty, and it’s.
Robbie Kramer [00:34:32]:
Like rule number 43, don’t flip off the camera. When people are taking a pick of you, it’s horrible, right?
Mariia Kramer [00:34:38]:
But we do the best.
Robbie Kramer [00:34:40]:
A lot of people do that. It’s so trashy. Like, don’t flip off the camera. It’s dumb. I think that’s enough rules for now. Let’s save the other ones for another podcast. I think all these rules are pretty good. Yeah. If you’re breaking these rules, stop, please.
Mariia Kramer [00:34:57]:
Or if you’re not doing them fully, like, you bob no beggy pants, open more doors. You’re almost good, but not fully.
Robbie Kramer [00:35:05]:
I got to stop flipping off the camera. On that note, thanks, guys.
Mariia Kramer [00:35:14]:
Bye.
Robbie Kramer [00:35:14]:
See you next time.
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