We recently had 5 new clients join our Leverage Program from the Phoenix area. I always love when this happens because it creates a satellite community within our group and because the guys are local, it's very easy for them to spend time together, wing each other, and push each other to grow faster. And because all of these guys were at pretty similar levels when it came to meeting women, I decided to drive out to Phoenix for the weekend with a few of the moderators to get these guys started off on the right foot. (Review of The Phoenix Workshop - By Jad Morris) I'm at … [Read more...]
Why You Shouldn’t Care About Approach Anxiety
A topic that gets a lot of attention in this space is approach anxiety. We've covered it on the blog, so I'll even risk looking like a hypocrite and admit that I believe it gets too much attention. It's a distraction, not the real issue. Anxiety is just a label we have for a feeling of physiological arousal. When we feel anxious, we're feeling the same sensations we experience when we're excited about something. It's telling that there's no such thing as "scary movie anxiety." But when we watch a horror movie, we're feeling IDENTICAL sensations in our bodies to approach anxiety. … [Read more...]
Why You Must Provide Uncertain Outcomes In Order to Stand Out In The Eyes of Women
Everything in dating is about user experience. If you want to do well, you need to be considering what kind of experience you're providing for the people you interact with, especially when you're trying to show your personality to make a good first impression. Most women have had countless dates with guys that start out the same way. “Hey, how’s it going? Did you have an okay time getting here? Yeah. Did you find parking okay? Yeah. Oh cool, so what do you do? How do you like it?” It’s the same experience. There’s nothing exciting about that at all. On the other hand, when you tease and … [Read more...]
Are You Playing To Win?
Most guys who originally sucked with women, me included, have a tendency to be overly risk averse. Sometimes I joke about how it's the result of having a Jewish mother or an Asian mother, but that joke hides a grain of truth- that risk aversion is often a thinking habit you learn in your childhood from your family, and carry with you throughout life. But we're not here to blame our dating problems on childhood. The good thing about this tendency for guys is that it isn't actually that they have low tolerance for risk. Rather, it's because they view their decisions situations in an absolute … [Read more...]
How To Become An International Sex Symbol
The biggest male sex symbols in society, James Dean, Marlon Brando, Sean Connery, Johnny Depp, etc… All have one thing in common: they are extremely solid individuals. Not only do they have a solid foundation of who they are: their morals, world views, character traits,but are also completely sincere when projecting these things to others. They don’t apologize for something they hold to be true if it offends you; they don’t try to be someone they’re not. Sure, you might think “yeah, well these guys are all good looking, rich, and superstars!” Well so are thousands of other actors, … [Read more...]
Women Tell All: The Worst Turn Offs in the Bedroom (Part 2)
I recently polled a group of 10,000 women aged 18-35 who live in the LA-area who all belong to a private group on Facebook about what they consider to be DO’s and DON’Ts when it comes to sex. The thread was one of the most popular I’ve seen posted, with over 300 enthusiastic responses from various women telling their tales/horror stories. It was a hilarious read, to say the least. Keeping all anonymity, I read through all the responses and with their permission and selected the most memorable mentions to share with you, along with my own commentary. The original posts are in italic … [Read more...]
Do Looks Matter?
Guys looking to meet women often ask the question, “Do looks matter?” It depends. The short answer: They matter more to girls who are young and inexperienced with dating. As women get older and look to settle down and have a family, they hardly matter at all. The long answer: [Begin Rant] When most girls start dating, they target guys who they find good looking. She may tell her friends that their high school crush, Johnny, is hot because he has a six pack, big blue eyes and great hair. But she also omitted from her statement that he has great body language, swagger, … [Read more...]
The Difference Between a 21-Year-Old Woman and a 31-Year-Old Woman
A guy walks into a bar. He sees a hot 21-year-old sitting at one of the bar, and he sees a hot 31-year-old sitting at the other end. Does he use the same game on both chicks? Answer: NO WAY! Being good at gaming is about surveying the playing field and knowing who you’re dealing with. A 31-year-old is much harder to impress, but a 21-year-old will balk if you come on too strong. There are challenges and rewards with both. The most put-together dudes will instantly assess the landscape and know how to approach each woman in a way that jives with her sensibilities. Essentially, he gets … [Read more...]
How To Pickup A Waitress
Women that are working get hit on all the time. You know how many idiot duchebags, after just being served by a waitress at Hooters will hand the girl their business card and say “We should... We should go for coffee sometime.” You wouldn't believe how often this happens. If you talk to these girls and ask them about it; it’s crazy. It might happen to someone in that situation up to fifteen times a day. What I've done for years and years at a super busy bar, when I'm trying to maneuver quickly, in the typical bar scenario, So basically I will lean in, all serious, like it is a very serious … [Read more...]
Women Tell All: The Worst Turn Offs in the Bedroom (Part 1)
I recently polled a group of 10,000 women aged 18-35 who live in the LA-area who all belong to a private group on Facebook about what they consider to be DO's and DON'Ts when it comes to sex. The thread was one of the most popular I've seen posted, with over 300 enthusiastic responses from various women telling their tales/horror stories. It was a hilarious read, to say the least. Keeping all anonymity, I've read through all the responses and with their permission have selected the most memorable mentions to share with you, along with my own commentary. The original posts are in … [Read more...]
Avoid the Over-Gaming Trap: How to Know When to Pull Back
There’s an art to knowing when to game and when to push back. Too often I see cool dudes hitting it off with a girl at a bar, she’s really into him, and he just doesn’t know when to transition to the next phase of the interaction. Are you guilty of over-gaming? What is Over-Gaming? I see over-gaming all the time, but one recent experience comes to mind as especially aggravating. I almost broke my cell phone over this guy’s head because it was so annoying. The dude was just trying too hard to be funny; he was pushing everything too much. In this case, he was speaking to what was a … [Read more...]
Hacking Credit Cards & Retirement Planning
Body Language: Confident vs. Dorky
Hitting On A Girl At The Gym
A Leverage Program member asked: Met a girl in the private apartment gym tonight. I just finished working out and she walked in and went to the treadmill so I also went to the treadmill. I opened her with "Wanna race?" We talked for about 15 minutes and I invited her to go bike riding sometime. She asked if she can use one of my extra bikes. I realize that I deviated from the standard protocol by asking her for a bike ride instead of a bar or coffee date and Robbie said that these type of dates are good second dates. It's just that I felt that she was more likely to say yes to that. It … [Read more...]
Insights From A Dude Who Quit His $$ Job at Bloomberg To Travel The World
Social Hack – Using Peer Pressure & Momentum To Get More Dates
I recently took my client, Scott, out for an intense daygame session to help break his approach and social anxiety. He did awesome and hit on 25 girls in a span of 2 hours using the techniques we teach in the Daygame Ebook. (grab a free copy by clicking the link) Notice how Scott has a ton of support from the other members, I'm holding him accountable via a bet and we're all pushing for him to get past his excuses. The problem is that approach anxiety can be a bitch, and you can see how hard he is resisting. Trying to get over hurdles like this on your own is almost … [Read more...]
8 Keys To Bottle Service (From a Bottle Service Girl’s Perspective)
I was a bottle service cocktail waitress at a popular nightclub in San Francisco for 6 years. I've been around the block :) There are typically a few types of guys you will run into that buy tables. Once you have a better perspective of what everyone else is doing, it's easier to understand where you fit in and whether or not you're the type of person who would enjoy bottle service or if it makes more sense to meet women somewhere else. If you’re a woman, ignore the next paragraph and simply read the article. If you’re a man and you’re trying to improve your social and dating … [Read more...]
Should I Lie to Get More Women?
Guys often ask about lying to women, and if it's an effective strategy to reaching their attraction goals. If you want to be the guy who lies to get women, you can totally be that guy. No one is going to stop you, and you may see some short-term results. We're definitely not going to be the ones to moralistic on you, because we understand where you're coming from. The thing is, it's not the most effective way to get women. At first glance, lying may seem like a shortcut, or a "hack" in the system. However, hot women have very good BS detectors that have been honed through a … [Read more...]
How To Decipher A Woman’s Body Language To See If She Likes You
Texting Advice: Should You Send Her Sexual Texts?
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