Guest post by James, Leverage Program moderator I had just gotten off the plane in Belgrade, Serbia and a friend of mine, John, mentioned to me he was was a bit sketched out by the city already. He had heard it was dangerous and his parents had warned him about the city. I hadn’t formed any opinion yet, but I was comfortable and I felt fine. He definitely was not. Our driver dropped us off outside of an apartment building. Our host started looking for the keys, and he realised he forgot the keys and had to go on a long drive to get them. Not having any access to cell phones or … [Read more...]
Pretty Little Lies
Guest post by James, Leverage Program moderator Walking around the city of Belgrade in Serbia, you can't help but notice the immense beauty that radiates from the women here. The education level, the physical features, and the smiles all bring me to want to meet them and get to know them and learn more to explore my natural curiosity. I have challenged myself to talk to as many as possible while being as honest as possible. Walking up to a girl here, with my heart beating like a Sven Drulea bass drum, the words that come out of my mouth are as follows..."I saw you walking and I just … [Read more...]
The Value of Coaching We Often Forget
Guest post by James, Leverage Program moderator One of the biggest influences during my childhood wasn’t a part of my family, schooling, or friends. It was my soccer coach, Brian Malloy. As a child, I was always willing to listen to what he said. He was a major part of my life. He pushed me to be a better teammate, a better player, and to achieve success in and out of the classroom. My life would be drastically different without his coaching in my adolescence. During adulthood, I lost the understanding of how valuable a coach can be. Growing up I needed people who saw the world … [Read more...]
How Much Does Height Actually Matter in Dating? (Part 1)
When I first began to learn about success with women, I found it maddening how often I would hear my dating coaches and mentors tell me that, “height doesn’t matter.” It made no impression on me at the time that plenty of guys far shorter than me were getting better results, or that many of the top instructors in the dating industry were well below average height. I was still fixated on the past. I would think back to all the times I went out in college with my golf teammates. I was usually one of the shortest guys in the group and had no doubt that this was why I wasn’t getting good … [Read more...]
Why Getting Rejected Is Good…
Why is rejection so scary? Our society does a great job of instilling shame in men. Growing up as kids, and even into our adult lives, we’re told toxic messages that can hold us back for a lifetime. Sometimes this shame originates from the people around us. Our parents or friends tell us these messages explicitly: that guy’s a player and you shouldn’t be like that. Or they could be more subtle messages from the media and movies: in order to get a girl to like you, you need to be nice and submissive. People mean well when they give us this kind of advice. Despite their good intentions, … [Read more...]
5 Ways To Always Be In Style
Women pay attention to your clothing. Your personal style can signal your positive, attractive traits, or it can repel hot women away from you. What's the minimalist, easy way to make sure you always look good? It's simple. Keep items in your wardrobe that will always be in style, and nail down your fundamentals. 1. The White Shirt Any combination of crew-neck/long sleeve or long sleeve/v-neck will work. You could even explore different styles of dress shirts if you want to. Make sure you get a few of each style that works for you. White gets dirty easily, and to a woman, there’s nothing … [Read more...]
How To Start Taking Responsibility Like An Adult
When things don’t go your way, it’s easy to place the blame on anything but yourself. It's a natural reaction for most people. Didn’t get that promotion? Boss must have it in for you. Car accident? You’re a perfect driver so it was the other guy’s fault. Can’t lose weight? Bad genetics. Regarding injuries, contact the best car accident lawyer near you. While it's easy to say this is bad, this tendency has some value. It can serve as a psychological defense mechanism that prevents people from thinking depressing thoughts. If we were to act as if everything negative in our lives is our … [Read more...]
Building Location Independence
Guest post by Patrick, Leverage Program member For the past month, I have been building a new lifestyle for myself. I've been working towards complete location independence. I spoke with a friend yesterday who's also interested in a similar lifestyle. He wants to work remotely and travel comfortably, while not depleting his bank account. I told him he should work while he travels, and his first response to me was “It’s a good idea, but I'm just trying to figure out the kind of work I can do while I travel. I've been in the restaurant industry for 15 years, and the skills I have aren’t … [Read more...]
The Truth About Height
Guest Don't let something you can't change become an excuse. I am not a small guy, but I've had a unique experience. I am 5'11 170 pounds, and I am only attracted to tall athletic girls, 5'8-5'11. That means that they're taller than me when they wear heels, so most of the time I meet a woman out, she'll be taller than me. Tall girls have issues about being big, but a 6'5, 240 pound guy makes them feel small. Most women who are 5'8 and up want to date really tall guys so they can feel small in their arms. I am by far the shortest and smallest guy any of my girlfriends has ever dated- … [Read more...]
9 Ways to Create Enough Time and Money for a Quality Dating Life
Recently, I asked for an update from some of my coaching clients in the Leverage Program. I noticed that almost all of the guys who are lagging on the dating front are also worried about their finances. While it’s true that guys often use money as an excuse, I actually do think that it’s hard to get your dating life handled if your finances are also not in order. Financial difficulties are an emotional drain that affects our self-esteem and cause us to project insecurity to everyone around us. The relationship between money and dating is an issue I started to think about in junior … [Read more...]
You Should Dump Your Girlfriend
Guest post by Jay, Leverage Program member It’s easy to fall into the trap of letting a girl who isn’t really a good fit for you stick around because she prevents you from feeling lonely. We all feel lonely at times. It’s part of the human condition. And for guys who aren’t naturally good with women, it’s normal to feel lonely most or even all of the time. When you start developing your skills, having success is inevitable. You’ll start to get numbers, you’ll start to get dates, you’ll start to make out with women, and you’ll start to sleep with ones you like. Once you start … [Read more...]
Bringing Day Game Into Your Everyday Life
Guest post by Patrick, Leverage Program member You’ve read our blog posts on why you should day game, you get the concept, but are you still struggling to connect with girls when you hit on them? The game changer is that you need to start incorporating day game into your everyday life. Luckily for me, I live in New York City, where the opportunities for day game are endless. While it is definitely important to set aside some time to go out and practice day game, especially when you're first starting, your goal should be to incorporate practicing your communication skills on a daily … [Read more...]
If You Play it Safe You’re Boring
When you look at guys who are great with women, or anyone with peak social awareness, they perform a bunch of smaller actions that add up to an arsenal of social skills. These discrete skills combine to form a killer ability to communicate with others and assertively get what they want. When we’re teaching you to improve your dating life, we focus on a lot. Accumulating as much practice as you can and playing the “numbers game” is part of it. Developing your character is also part of it, and it can seem overwhelming to go from where you are now to the success you really dream of. While … [Read more...]
Inner Confidence on Elite Daily: Yes, Women Actually Do Pay A Lot Of Attention To The Way You’re Dressed
At the end of the day, being dynamic is your greatest sales pitch ever. The end-all, be-all is becoming a man who’s witty, charismatic, driven, spontaneous and grounded. This is the whole package, and women will pretty much do anything to be with a man who’s dynamic. If you don’t know how to dress, it immediately sends out a signal you’re not dynamic. Continue reading on Elite Daily. … [Read more...]
Do I Need To Be Rich To Date Hot Women?
A lot the teachings of Inner Confidence are how you can use minimalism to be successful in all areas of life. There's a big misconception out there that you need to have money to date women. It's crucial to understand that the only lasting method of having a healthy dating life is to first, develop the characteristics that women find attractive, second, learn how to display those characteristics, and third, put yourself in situations where the kind of women you want to meet will notice you displaying those characteristics. Money can be a signal for traits that women find attractive, like … [Read more...]
The 8 Ways to Click With Women
Guest post by Jay, Leverage Program member and resident lazy fuck I've been working on my connection skills, and the group recommended I check out a book called Click: The Forces Behind How We Fully Engage with People, Work, and Everything We Do. The book is basically a collection of tons of examples and studies going over each aspect that creates instant connections, or what they call "quick set intimacy": That magic moment when you feel like you're in the zone while talking to another person, like you're 10/10 on 3 pointers. Except the baskets are people. Or something. So here are the … [Read more...]
5 of the Most Effective Tips for Improving Your Vocal Tonality
Some guys are born with a naturally powerful voice that turns women on. Most guys aren't as fortunate. Some guys have naturally picked up good habits from their peers, friends, and families. Most guys don't put in this kind of effort, but they should. Even professionals like sportscasters have spent hundreds of hours working on their own and with coaches to sound more confident. 1. Open your mouth wider Do you mumble? Open your mouth wider. Do you speak too quickly? Open your mouth wider. Do you speak too softly? Open your mouth wider. This could go on and on, and there's a good … [Read more...]
Develop Your Inner Confidence Interview on Pickup Change
I was recently interviewed by pickupchange.com We talked about how to build your confidence and make your approach to girls more natural and effective. Here’s what we covered in the podcast: The easiest way to meet girls How to develop your inner confidence How to overcome approach anxiety What is the average success ratio in daygame How to enjoy the process and stop being focused only on the outcome Do looks and wealth really matter? How to spot a girl who is actively looking for … [Read more...]
Do you agree too much?
A common mistake that guys who don't have well-developed social skills make is that they are too agreeable. They don't want to tell girls no. They don't want to make polarizing statements. They'd rather go with the flow than rock the boat. They avoid controversy. At first glance, this seems like it's a good idea. If you aren't a social genius or a beast with women, why take a risk that has a chance of hurting a relationship or creating tension? Here's the problem: when you're in the middle, you're vanilla. You need to be polarizing to be attractive to people. You need to filter some … [Read more...]
Why is approaching so important for building confidence?
You've heard me say it over and over, but if you expect to get results and you're not crushing approaches or already dating multiple women, it's just not gonna happen. If you wanna get good at basketball you've gotta take a ton of shots right? You can't expect to show up at the court, stand around with the ball and expect to improve can you? Well, that's what many of you guys are doing, and then whining that you suck and the program isn't working. That line of thinking is actually offensive to guys who have put in the work. Robbie crushed 10k approaches by the time he was in his late … [Read more...]
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