If you've ever approached a random woman while going about your day, or studied up on strategies on how to go about this the most effectively, then you've most likely asked yourself the question: "Should I be direct and tell her that I like her, or should I play it cool?" There is an ongoing debate about the benefit of directly stating your intent vs. indirectly striking up a conversation and letting that intent be demonstrated naturally. In this article, I'll take a stab and explaining the rational and reasoning behind both approaches. I think at the most fundamental level, every … [Read more...]
7 Steps On How To Be A Man That Women Fall For
7 Steps on How to Be A Man That Women Fall For We all want to be a man that women fall for. Whether you’re trying to get a girlfriend, or just trying to play the field for a while, you need to become a man first. As the old saying goes, women don’t want a boy… they want a man. Unfortunately, however, our society isn’t doing a great job of teaching boys how to be men. …that’s where we come in. Here at Inner Confidence, in conjunction with Robbie Kramer, we’ve come up with 7 surefire steps to help you learn how to become a man. Step 1. Find Your Bigger … [Read more...]
Does She Want Me Or Not? 10 Ways To Test For Attraction & Know When To Make A Move
Most guys don’t have a mental model of the process of seducing a woman. Up until my early 20’s I was 90% the boring nice guy or 10% of the time the aggressive creepy guy in the club. This was my modus operandi between 1997-2005 age (15-23) - In social circle situations with girls I was interested in (high school and college) I erred heavily on the side of caution and acted as the wallflower. It was safer to do nothing and avoid looking bad by showing interest and taking a risk. (This was possibly caused by my first attempt at love failing miserably and resulting in a ton of … [Read more...]
18 Reasons Why Rock Climbing Is The Best Date Idea Ever
Why you should be rock climbing (for dating).... I googled ‘rock climbing gym’ then hit images. Notice how many girls are in the images. 18 reasons why you should do this: There are days I’ve gone to a climbing gym and there have been 42 girls and 26 guys. Groups of 2-4 girls often go climbing. Climbing is very social. It’s totally normal for one group of randoms to make friends with another group of randoms. In one session you could in theory talk to 20 people. You could also talk to zer0 if you choose. Both are common. If you meet a girl and she climbs, she’s in shape … [Read more...]
A Step-by-Step Guide to a Manly Bathroom Every Chick Will Love
Generally, men do not like girly baths where they trip over scented candles and essential oils. However, as a man, you also want to please your girl. So you need a bathroom that she will like just as much as you do. Here are suggestions you can use to help you decorate your manly bathroom in a way that your chick will love. 1. Mix dark and bright colors As a man, you probably like subtle and dark colors. However, most women like bright colors. It's a great idea to mix a little bit of both so that you have a balanced color scheme that you and your girl will appreciate. Try dominating with dark … [Read more...]
When She Won’t Commit To A Second Date…
Context: Met on Tinder, missed getting together for like 3 weeks, finally went out Friday. She was pretty touchy, made out in uber on way to bar #2, closed out bar 2, it's 2am and she was going to come home with me but also had to be at work at 6:30 so ended up going home on her own instead, good call. She was a little drunk and kinda toppled over outside the bar when we were figuring out what to do, dragged me down with her, it was hilarious. Really like this chick a lot and she seemed enthusiastic but now don't know where I stand. I let it sit for for today, she never got back to … [Read more...]
What Women Really Think About Your Beard
My friend Wesley, over at iManscape. wrote an article around that subject that focuses on what women really think of men with beards. He broke down information from many studies into an easy to read article covering the topic and threw in some tips for the men. Some of the data might surprise you... https://imanscape.com/what-women-think-about-beards/ … [Read more...]
The #1 Secret To Meeting Women In Bars & Clubs…
My buddy Drew is on the short list of people I respect in the world of nightclub promoting. He’s the newest moderator in the Leverage Program, and he has a great story of how he stumbled on club promoting and became wildly successful at it. Last week I had him on the podcast where we talked about his story. He shares his tips of how normal guys can be successful in the nightlife scene. Check out the episode here. This week, I’m bringing him back to discuss how you can use nightlife networking skills to meet women and have fun when you go out. Meeting women through nightlife can be … [Read more...]
How to get more dates
As you know, the best way to get the dating life you want is to optimize your strategy as much as you can based on your lifestyle and personality. But just because you're being efficient and optimal doesn't mean you shouldn't also be exhausting as many funnels as you can to meet chicks and other cool dudes. This was inspired by one of my students, Jeff. Jeff is in his mid 20s and he's a solid likable guy who's got his life together and is fun to be around. The problem is that he's not getting nearly the amount of dates a guy in his shoes should be getting. I have reason to believe that this … [Read more...]
Why is this girl being flaky?
You meet a girl and things start out well, but she starts getting distant or flaky. It’s a situation we’ve all been in. Steve, a Leverage Program member, posted a great question in our private members area about this very situation. Here's his question: A girl I'm enthusiastic is being flaky about our third date. Our conversation has always been smooth and to me it seems like we share mutual chemistry. We met on Tinder and got drinks on our first date. Our second date was a cooking date at my place. We made out, cuddled in our underwear, and I cooked her breakfast the next morning. We … [Read more...]
The truth about confidence and rejection
If you don't feel confident in your dating life, it says nothing about your character. It's just an indication that you need more practice so you can stack more wins. There's a lot of nonsense out there on what confidence is, or what it takes to develop confidence. Confidence is the thoughts and feelings that result from a series of wins stacked together. It's your expectation of how you'll perform in a given situation, and it's different from self-esteem, which is your overall evaluation of yourself. I was reviewing Mate by Tucker Max yesterday and found a brilliant definition of … [Read more...]
Stop caring what other people think…or don’t?
Think of all the things you could accomplish if you didn't care what other people think. In an ideal world, you could flip a switch in your brain to do this, start taking bigger risks, and reap the rewards. That's why on the surface, "stop caring what other people think" is a great piece of advice. But as is usually the case, reality is more complicated than a piece of rah-rah self-help oversimplification. So what's my problem with this idea? The problem is that caring what others think is ingrained in human nature. We evolved in tribes with less than 150 people. If you were … [Read more...]
All of my friends are losers. How can I find new ones?
How you do anything is how you do everything, and the people you choose to associate with reflects on your character. It's crucial to surround yourself with guys who are better than you if you want to become better with women. Women are attracted to social status more than anything else, and one of the most important ways to show (not tell) your status is by being a leader or providing value in a group of other attractive men. This is why I always talk about how improving your dating life is more than just knowing how to attract; it's about being a complete man who's attractive to … [Read more...]
How do I dress well without going broke?
Style can be a painfully annoying topic to grasp. Most guys and girls neglect it altogether and look terrible as a result, sporting combinations like running shoes and jeans that are sure to turn off anyone. The ones who get it know that it's important, if for no other reason than because people pay attention to your clothes and try to spice it up using fashionable jewelry pieces like this mens cuban link chain which you can get on sale by clicking the las link. Buying new clothes usually sucks too. We forget our sizes, we don’t know how things are supposed to fit, and we can never figure … [Read more...]
The 6 Biggest Mistakes To Avoid
In my early 20s I sucked with women. I was fat. I wasn't making any money. I didn't know how to dress. No wonder I couldn't get dates. I wanted to change everything at once. I didn't know what to do. Things are different now. I date hot women. I choose what kind of relationships I want. I'm in shape. All of the problems of the typical American dude are solved in my life. I never have to settle. I don't feel guilty bragging about my lifestyle because I hustled my ass off to get here. So how did I get here? I got here because I failed. A lot. I've made the same mistakes everyone has. But … [Read more...]
The 23 Unspoken Rules of Bottle Service
If you're a woman, ignore the next paragraph and simply read the article. If you're a man and you're trying to improve your social and dating skills before reading this article it's important to understand the psychology of women who frequent nightclubs where you'll be ordering bottle service. This video breaks down how you can succeed with the model quality women you're hoping to meet while popping bottles. There's an art to having a great night out when you're doing bottle service. If you aren't a bottle service regular, you're stepping into a world with tons of unwritten rules and … [Read more...]
How to send texts that get dates
I'll be the first to admit it: texting is hard. When you're texting a girl you've recently met, you don't have a strong relationship yet. You don't have the benefit of seeing her facial reactions, so you can’t adjust your approach in real time. As a result, most texting fails. But it can work well. I've had so much practice that texting has become effortless. Witty responses that make women attracted automatically pop into my brain. Many of my students have learned the same skills. They now use day game and Tinder to meet women who they text to get dates. But even though text game is … [Read more...]
Day game is the best use of your time- Here’s why
Last night I was discussing my client Cameron's progress with him. Cameron has dates lined up for the next three nights with girls he met from day gaming. After walking home from the bars, he told me how almost all of his dates come from day gaming: “It’s just so much easier. I get way more love when I approach during the day from hotter girls than I meet at night.” The reason for this is because the bar scene in LA is really competitive. Dudes here are fucking beasts. This is true everywhere, but even more so in LA. Before I moved away from LA, my game was nowhere as solid as it is now, … [Read more...]
The good news about your dating life
When I was a kid I spent 10 years doing nothing but practicing golf at the at the driving range. I was a +2 handicap at one point (2 strokes better than scratch) and an All-American in college. I just thought I was just lucky to find a good coach because I worked with John Anselmo, who taught Tiger Woods from age 12-17. I also thought I was blessed with a natural swing thanks to my ice hockey skillz. After I discovered The Game in 2006, I figured getting good with women and making crazy money would come easy too. I didn't realize that I got better at golf by doing NOTHING but practicing and … [Read more...]
You Don’t Have To Feel Guilty If You’re Not Attracted To Your Partner 24/7
"Love is one of the greatest experiences of the human condition. But it’s also a lot of work, and society makes that work tougher than it needs to be." Check out the rest of the article on Elite Daily! … [Read more...]
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