More than looks, more than money, more than whatever hard-to-grasp definition you want to give to “value” or “status”, the most attractive aspect of a man, that x-factor that gets him attention, attraction and dates is… …fun. That's right! Fun. My actual favorite subject :) Making the transition from someone who wouldn't describe themselves as fun to being one of the most fun people in a room will involve forcing yourself to forget about nervousness or insecurity. Personally, I think the definition of being "fun" is being comfortable with who you are, while doing your best to … [Read more...]
The Truth About Goals & The Myth of Motivation
How Do I Get Motivation to Reach My Goals? You don’t. Everyone is wrong about motivation. You don’t need motivation to reach your goals, or to achieve success in life. So what is it that’s actually important? We all have this idea that becoming “successful” is a huge concept: a far away point to be reached, and when we get there, everything will be great. Along with this line of thinking is the idea that it takes a ton of motivation and major life changes to solve the everyday problems we face. But here’s the thing we’re never taught: that line of thinking is wrong. New research in … [Read more...]
How To Crush A Job Interview – 18 Nuggets of Wisdom
We surveyed 60 members in the Become A Social Genius group and asked them to how to crush a job interview. Here is what they had to say. Before we get into the list, the most important of all is not to freak out during the interview for any reason, like these people: http://youtu.be/hCLYh4JSus8 1. Ask questions. I am always taken back when I do an interview and the candidate just sits there and answers questions but doesn't actually have a conversation. Your inability to converse JUST with the person hiring you is a red flag! (Though I went against this when hiring developers aka the … [Read more...]
8 Rules For Being An Awesome Wingman
Every guy loves the experience of meeting an awesome girl and hitting it off with her for the first time. And that experience is even better if you are out with your buddy and you both meet girls! Going out to hit on girls together is one of the best ways to bond with your boys. So if you're gonna do it, you might as well do it right! This guide will walk you through every step of the process of having a great night out with the guys and hopefully meeting some nice ladies. Rule 1 - Looks Matter: Find a wingman who is similar to you in every way except his looks. Your wingman should dress … [Read more...]
7 Ways You’re Cock-blocking Yourself On Dates
-Another great post from on of our moderators in Leverage. Excuse my rant and how fucking OBVIOUS this shit is but I felt I needed to state all this shit cuz dudes are clearly still fucking up out there... So my roommate (female) just got back from like a month in New York. Before she left I advised her to go on as many dates as she could, basically rep the shit out of Manhattan. To give background, she is an attractive girl, well dressed, cultured, intelligent but in reality, too mature for 25 years old to be dating dudes her age and thus she has not had that much luck in Boston or … [Read more...]
The New Years Eve “Get Lucky” Guide
I hope you've got something fun planned for tonight to kick off 2014, and if you're single, I want to make sure you get some action when the ball drops! You don't wanna be THAT guy looking around for someone to kiss as the clock strikes midnight, that sucks! NYE is amateur night, everyone goes out. This is good and bad. You'll face long lines, tons of crowds, transportation headaches, etc ... so make sure you have a plan for getting to and from. I would recommend using UberX, it beats taxis and its way more convenient. Don't leave things up to the last minute, you'll likely end up … [Read more...]
8 Ways For Men To Improve Their Voice & Sound More Attractive
Where are you making the biggest mistakes when you get into a conversation with a woman? I know what you’re thinking, “I don’t what to say” but that’s not it and it’s probably something you haven’t put much thought into before… You need to speak in a tone that turns her on. The boring science: There are objective differences between masculine and feminine speech that are apparent in casual conversation. Scientists with too much time on their hands, have also studied these things. There are some aspects of engaging speech that are the same for both men and women, and are the same no matter who … [Read more...]
21 Things Every Man Needs to Know How to Do…
Guest Post By Genevieve Some guys have it, and other guys simply don't. I don't want to undermine it by calling it swagger. Swagger, charm, appeal....they know what to say to a woman and how to say it. They know how to touch a woman. How to make the most uptight person smile. These aren't always the most attractive men, but one thing is definitely for sure—these are men. Whatever the scenario, and as cliche as it sounds - there is a distinct difference between men and boys. There is a certain...wisdom that comes after three decades of trial and error, bad mistakes and wonderful … [Read more...]
Is it Possible to Change my Personality?
Where does personality come from? People describe each other by describing their traits: friendly, nice, arrogant, easy-going, etc. Traits are a collection of behaviors: if someone is charismatic, it means that they show behaviors that others think are charismatic. If someone is shy, it means they don’t go out of their way to connect with others. Any personality trait you wish to have can be broken down in terms of repeatable actions. Even something that seems abstract, like confidence, can be defined in terms of actions. For example, a confident guy is someone who approaches women … [Read more...]
The Four Reasons Why You Aren’t Reaching Your Goals
Once you’ve set goals and decided what it is you want to pursue in your life, it’s easy to get distracted and fail. For whatever reason, things come up and prevent you from accomplishing the goals you’ve determined are meaningful for you. What most people do when this happens is blame external factors: the economy is bad, it was someone else’s fault, I didn’t actually care about that goal anyway, etc. Instead of minimizing your disappointment when you fail to reach a goal, it is more important to focus on what responsibility you did play, and stop these common failure points from occurring … [Read more...]
The Real Value of Money For Attracting Women…
Guest Post By Genevieve Today I want to place focus on our personal worth, value and how it has a great affect on your life! In your opinion, do you bring value to other people around you? Be honest with yourself. If I'm ever questioning my own place within a group setting, the first question I ask myself is: what am I adding to this dynamic/situation? If the answer is nothing, the next question is always what can I add? My goal is to steadily provide something to that is going to make my being there appreciated, and that will make them appreciate and notice me. Be honest with yourself. … [Read more...]
Why Your Gut Instincts Are Often Wrong
When I work with clients, they participate in a private invite-only VIP group with me, moderators who are life beasts, and a collection of other guys who are all improving their skills with women, getting ripped, dressing like a boss and increasing their income. Almost every single one of them ended up in this group after a conversation with me where we discussed their sticking points and I presented them with this group as a solution. It probably felt uncomfortable, nerve wracking and possibly even annoying when I asked them to bust out their credit card because that was the point when … [Read more...]
How To Tell If You’re Wasting Time Talking To A Girl In A Bar…
I have a buddy who is the king of approaching a girl at a bar, asking a few questions, pulling up a stool and lighting 3 hours on fire without ever finding out if he is good or not, only to get "I have a boyfriend." at the end of the night. Ain’t nobody got time for DAT. I refuse to not know where I stand within 10 minutes. I’ve pulled 8+ numbers out of one bar many times. This is because I move along. Here are the 3 steps to make sure you never waste your time talking to a girl who isn't interested in you for too long: I identify if she is into me by touching her at the end of a … [Read more...]
The #1 Biggest Seduction Mistake Men Make…
In 2010 I spent 12 days running a workshop in Amsterdam. My business partner and I organized a 8 day workshop with 6 clients and at the time, we needed two female models to help us run these programs. The models would interact with the clients while we filmed and then we would break down the video. Very similar to what we do with the mock dates we offer our clients. We brought 1 girl with us and organized another two who lived in Amsterdam but the day of the workshop, they flaked. So that morning I had to go out to Dam Square and round up to more girls. They had to be: a) hot b) … [Read more...]
7 Reasons Why You’re Failing To Connect With Women…
Listening is a simple skill to master. It consists of two parts: focusing your attention on another person, and communicating to them that you’re present. This means you’re actively processing what they are saying, and at the same time, sending non-verbal signals like good eye contact. This isn’t too complicated. As social beings, it’s something humans are hard-wired to do. Even the best responses like paraphrasing, asking thoughtful questions, and giving feedback are skills we naturally pick up in the course of our lives. Everyone knows they need to make eye contact while they’re … [Read more...]
Being Objective About Emotions
When making decisions, whether they’re major life decisions or day-to-day choices, one of the most important concepts is to be objective: to take in all of the relevant data, determine the possible outcomes, and choose the best choice based on the constraints. When doing this, emotions will f*ck you up. What stops people from reaching their goals nine times out of ten? Acting on short-term emotions instead of doing what they KNOW they need to do. Most people don’t come anywhere close to viewing their emotions objectively. What separates winners and losers is that winners are able to take … [Read more...]
Being Good At Math = Women & Money
Today we bring you another post by our guest writer extraordinaire, Matti. Another topic covered in the Complete Man Workshop was calculating Expected Value (EV). This blog post will probably be a bit drier than the Bunt vs Home Run post, because I don’t know how to drop references to f*cking busty blondes in the arse while talking about calculating ratios… So let’s say you want to make a bet on the likelihood of a certain event happening. For this example, I’ll use hitting a 3-pointer (if you don’t know what a 3-pointer is learn sports f*ckface). Let’s say I historically hit 25% of the … [Read more...]
2 Easy Steps To Building Wealth
One of the topics Justin talked about at the workshop was the importance of going for bunts rather than swinging for the home run. For you foreigners who don’t know what bunts and home runs are: 1) learn f*cking sports 2) bunting is basically when you go for a series of safer wins with limited upside each time, rather than shooting for the unlikely win with huge upside. Now I would relate this principle to my personal business experiences, where I stacked up a series of bunts to make big money in the end and contrast that with when I swung for the home run and missed…unfortunately, my … [Read more...]
The 24 Most Annoying Guys At The Bar
The Wasted, Lets Do Shots Guy At first this guy seems like fun because he's in a good mood and making the place more lively, but after the 5th round of shots he's slurring his words, speaking gibberish and announcing to the entire bar that you are doing tequila shots with him whether you like or not. There's no one you'd rather punch in the face. Motto: "Come on, don't be a pussy... you're drinking with me and I'm not taking no for an answer!" The Drink Spiller This guy just can't seem to keep his drink in his hand on or the table. After he spills all over you or drops his glass … [Read more...]
3 Ways To A Read Woman’s Subtle Social Cues…
Social cue: a verbal or nonverbal hint that guides conversation and other social interactions. I want to go in depth regarding the importance of recognizing social cues and understanding why an engaging and successful interaction with a girl completely depends upon them. The importance of this topic can't be overstated! Social cues are an example of behaving the way others anticipate us to, and living up to expectations of how we're supposed to interact with each other. When we behave in a way that makes other people feel comfortable, we do it by igniting the right kind of emotions … [Read more...]
