Robbie Kramer

Review of the IC Introductory Workshop

We recently had 5 new clients join our Leverage Program from the Phoenix area. I always love when this happens because it creates a satellite community within our group and because the guys are local, it's very easy for them to spend time together, wing each other, and push each other to grow faster. And because all of these guys were at pretty similar levels when it came to meeting women, I decided to drive out to Phoenix for the weekend with a few of the moderators to get these guys started off on the right foot. (Review of The Phoenix Workshop - By Jad Morris) I'm at … [Read more...]

Why You Shouldn’t Care About Approach Anxiety

A topic that gets a lot of attention in this space is approach anxiety. We've covered it on the blog, so I'll even risk looking like a hypocrite and admit that I believe it gets too much attention. It's a distraction, not the real issue. Anxiety is just a label we have for a feeling of physiological arousal. When we feel anxious, we're feeling the same sensations we experience when we're excited about something. It's telling that there's no such thing as "scary movie anxiety." But when we watch a horror movie, we're feeling IDENTICAL sensations in our bodies to approach anxiety. … [Read more...]

23: Q&A – Tips On Hooking Up & Confidence Building

Intro: Embarrass yourself on purpose to make yourself not give a fuck and be more confident. Good exercises for that are pushing your face up against a glass window and making a ridiculous face for a minute or two while people inside stare at you. Another good one is walking up to a random girl, telling her you have a bad case of Chlamydia, and ask her where the STD clinic is. Show Notes: How to deal with signs of anxiety, like filler words and sweaty palms. What to do when a conversation starts dying, and how to use our Bar Game Flowchart to avoid this in the first place. How … [Read more...]

Are You Playing To Win?

Most guys who originally sucked with women, me included, have a tendency to be overly risk averse. Sometimes I joke about how it's the result of having a Jewish mother or an Asian mother, but that joke hides a grain of truth- that risk aversion is often a thinking habit you learn in your childhood from your family, and carry with you throughout life. But we're not here to blame our dating problems on childhood. The good thing about this tendency for guys is that it isn't actually that they have low tolerance for risk. Rather, it's because they view their decisions situations in an absolute … [Read more...]

22C: Tinder & POF Message Breakdowns (Video Podcast)

Intro: Follow the script and don’t go rogue. Don’t put ‘lol’ and ‘haha’ in every response. Don’t say ‘it was a joke’ if a girl doesn’t laugh at your joke. Don’t act overly excited and use exclamation marks. It’s dorky and feminine. Show Notes: What you can learn form a girls Tinder and POF profile before you message her. A great example of an opening line and what to send in response. How to flirt back and forth and how much to tailor your messages. How and when to get her number and transition from dating app to texting. Common mistakes that most guys … [Read more...]

How To Become An International Sex Symbol

The biggest male sex symbols in society, James Dean, Marlon Brando, Sean Connery, Johnny Depp, etc… All have one thing in common: they are extremely solid individuals. Not only do they have a solid foundation of who they are: their morals, world views, character traits,but are also completely sincere when projecting these things to others. They don’t apologize for something they hold to be true if it offends you; they don’t try to be someone they’re not. Sure, you might think “yeah, well these guys are all good looking, rich, and superstars!” Well so are thousands of other actors, … [Read more...]

22B: Another In Depth Text Message Breakdown (Video Podcast)

Intro: Know the context of the situation. Don’t send openers that don’t make any sense in relation to what happened. If the girl says ‘lol’ and short word responses in every text, she’s not investing and isn’t interested. Show Notes: Watch texting experts, Robbie & Tyler, breakdown the text exchange from a client in the Leverage Program. In this example, our client misread her level of interest which lead to a series of mistakes that would have otherwise been avoided. He managed to get a date anyway, but you'll learn how to avoid these problems and optimize your dates in … [Read more...]

22A: In Depth Text Message Breakdowns (Video Podcast)

Intro: Don’t be try hard on the opening text. Don’t open with lame corny lines. Open with over the top, exaggerated, funny stuff. When texting, follow the emotion in the conversation, not the logic. Emotion matters more than the specific details. Show Notes: Watch texting experts, Robbie & Tyler, breakdown the text exchanges from the guys in the Leverage Program. Mistakes include texting too much, sending the wrong signals, failing to setup the date, and figuring out what date to plan based on the amount of interest she is … [Read more...]

Do Looks Matter?

Guys looking to meet women often ask the question, “Do looks matter?” It depends. The short answer: They matter more to girls who are young and inexperienced with dating. As women get older and look to settle down and have a family, they hardly matter at all. The long answer: [Begin Rant] When most girls start dating, they target guys who they find good looking. She may tell her friends that their high school crush, Johnny, is hot because he has a six pack, big blue eyes and great hair. But she also omitted from her statement that he has great body language, swagger, … [Read more...]

21: Dating and Sex in Western Post-Feminist Society

Intro: Don't be a nice guy, don't be an asshole, be sort of a hybrid. You have to be assertive without being a completely terrible individual. Show Notes: Robbie discusses how most men's childhoods cause them to become "nice guys." What Dan Bilzerian and Kim Kardashian can teach you about attraction. What game is, and why it's possible for men to become more attractive. The dating trajectory most women in our society follow. A woman's perspective on the effects of feminism. The difference between American women and European women. How to embody the positive … [Read more...]

The Difference Between a 21-Year-Old Woman and a 31-Year-Old Woman

A guy walks into a bar. He sees a hot 21-year-old sitting at one of the bar, and he sees a hot 31-year-old sitting at the other end. Does he use the same game on both chicks? Answer: NO WAY! Being good at gaming is about surveying the playing field and knowing who you’re dealing with. A 31-year-old is much harder to impress, but a 21-year-old will balk if you come on too strong. There are challenges and rewards with both. The most put-together dudes will instantly assess the landscape and know how to approach each woman in a way that jives with her sensibilities. Essentially, he gets … [Read more...]

20: Texting Mistakes – Part 2 (Video Podcast)

Intro: Bust girls balls when they say ridiculous things over text. Don’t miss those opportunities. After not texting a girl for a couple weeks, don’t just ask her out immediately. You need to re-engage and reconnect first. Show Notes: Example of a text thread fizzling out because she lost interest. A great opportunity to tease that most guys miss. How to deal with a long period of silence. How to spot a fatty on Tinder. Why sexting will almost always backfire. How often to engage in an instant message conversation. How to tell if she's … [Read more...]

19: Texting Mistakes – Part 1 (Video Podcast)

Intro: Play off what girls say to you. Don’t just text responses that have nothing to do with they just said, especially when your response to those responses makes no sense. Show Notes: Example of a how to text with a girl that you're casually sleeping with. How to use emoji's. How often to reply. How to avoid boring conversations. How to tell if she's really into you. How to get a number on Tinder. What not to do on Tinder. Logical vs. playful conversations. How to spot a chick who's a waste of time. How to tell if she's a "walker." How to transition … [Read more...]

18: Texting Fundamentals

Intro: People who want something call. People who are being asked for something text. Texting is for flirting with a girl, not for exchanging information with her. It’s an art form, not back and forth boring shit. Keep track of the text bubbles to make sure they are the same amount from you and the girl. Don’t over-text. Show Notes: Why creating doubt works to your advantage. Why you shouldn't call. Common mistakes guys make when texting. What "text jamming" is and the effect it has on your interactions. How to properly use emojis and memes. Should you get an iPhone or … [Read more...]

How To Pickup A Waitress

Women that are working get hit on all the time. You know how many idiot duchebags, after just being served by a waitress at Hooters will hand the girl their business card and say “We should... We should go for coffee sometime.” You wouldn't believe how often this happens. If you talk to these girls and ask them about it; it’s crazy. It might happen to someone in that situation up to fifteen times a day. What I've done for years and years at a super busy bar, when I'm trying to maneuver quickly, in the typical bar scenario, So basically I will lean in, all serious, like it is a very serious … [Read more...]

15: The 7 Fundamentals of Masculinity

Intro: Do not give girls/people reasons to instantly dismiss you (ie. bad fashion, out of shape, etc). Be aware of other’s perception of you. Think how other people are going to perceive you based on your different behaviors. You should be mindful of every move that you make. For example, wearing a certain type of clothes will give people a certain view of you. If your clothes are on point, you can get through that ‘cool’ filter. If not, you’re screwed before you say hi. Show Notes: What is social protocol? How your psychological lenses influence your social success. The “Dork … [Read more...]

14: The Introverts Guide To Dating Success

Intro: The main thing to get out of this is that committing fully into being successful with girls. He lived in a huge apartment with guys who were all into pickup and worked for a pickup company, then fully committed himself to meditation and became really good at that. The point here is that immersion is the approach you really need to take when getting good at this stuff, so building a lifestyle that allows you to immerse full time is key. Show Notes: The reason why Daniel used to be bad with women and how he overcame it. How Daniel first established a lifestyle that … [Read more...]

Avoid the Over-Gaming Trap: How to Know When to Pull Back

There’s an art to knowing when to game and when to push back. Too often I see cool dudes hitting it off with a girl at a bar, she’s really into him, and he just doesn’t know when to transition to the next phase of the interaction. Are you guilty of over-gaming? What is Over-Gaming? I see over-gaming all the time, but one recent experience comes to mind as especially aggravating. I almost broke my cell phone over this guy’s head because it was so annoying. The dude was just trying too hard to be funny; he was pushing everything too much. In this case, he was speaking to what was a … [Read more...]

13: Troubleshooting Daygame Sticking Points

Intro: In daygame, don't be outcome dependent when delivering the line. Really emphasis on not giving a shit. It throws girls off and makes them ask you questions. Show Notes: Robbie's new day game method. How to identify women who are looking for a hookup that night. How late is too late to text a girl after you get her number? Why you need wingmen who have the same goals as you. Advanced after party logistics. What to do if you feel like you aren't making progress. The lifestyles of guys who attract the hottest women. Ways to gain sexual confidence and … [Read more...]