In my early 20s I sucked with women. I was fat. I wasn't making any money. I didn't know how to dress. No wonder I couldn't get dates. I wanted to change everything at once. I didn't know what to do. Things are different now. I date hot women. I choose what kind of relationships I want. I'm in shape. All of the problems of the typical American dude are solved in my life. I never have to settle. I don't feel guilty bragging about my lifestyle because I hustled my ass off to get here. So how did I get here? I got here because I failed. A lot. I've made the same mistakes everyone has. But … [Read more...]
The 23 Unspoken Rules of Bottle Service
If you're a woman, ignore the next paragraph and simply read the article. If you're a man and you're trying to improve your social and dating skills before reading this article it's important to understand the psychology of women who frequent nightclubs where you'll be ordering bottle service. This video breaks down how you can succeed with the model quality women you're hoping to meet while popping bottles. There's an art to having a great night out when you're doing bottle service. If you aren't a bottle service regular, you're stepping into a world with tons of unwritten rules and … [Read more...]
How to send texts that get dates
I'll be the first to admit it: texting is hard. When you're texting a girl you've recently met, you don't have a strong relationship yet. You don't have the benefit of seeing her facial reactions, so you can’t adjust your approach in real time. As a result, most texting fails. But it can work well. I've had so much practice that texting has become effortless. Witty responses that make women attracted automatically pop into my brain. Many of my students have learned the same skills. They now use day game and Tinder to meet women who they text to get dates. But even though text game is … [Read more...]
I used to be fat
I used to be fat. It didn’t happen overnight. I had played sports and been active my whole life, but once I graduated college and started working a finance job, I settled into a routine that was killing me. I’d go out at night, crush beers, eat a California burrito, get too little sleep, then repeat the routine. I didn’t care. My main focus in life was learning how to talk to women. I told myself that I could eventually lose weight if I really cared about it, but it wasn’t really that important. After all, I didn’t want to date shallow women, if they didn’t appreciate my personality, … [Read more...]
Day game is the best use of your time- Here’s why
Last night I was discussing my client Cameron's progress with him. Cameron has dates lined up for the next three nights with girls he met from day gaming. After walking home from the bars, he told me how almost all of his dates come from day gaming: “It’s just so much easier. I get way more love when I approach during the day from hotter girls than I meet at night.” The reason for this is because the bar scene in LA is really competitive. Dudes here are fucking beasts. This is true everywhere, but even more so in LA. Before I moved away from LA, my game was nowhere as solid as it is now, … [Read more...]
The good news about your dating life
When I was a kid I spent 10 years doing nothing but practicing golf at the at the driving range. I was a +2 handicap at one point (2 strokes better than scratch) and an All-American in college. I just thought I was just lucky to find a good coach because I worked with John Anselmo, who taught Tiger Woods from age 12-17. I also thought I was blessed with a natural swing thanks to my ice hockey skillz. After I discovered The Game in 2006, I figured getting good with women and making crazy money would come easy too. I didn't realize that I got better at golf by doing NOTHING but practicing and … [Read more...]
You Don’t Have To Feel Guilty If You’re Not Attracted To Your Partner 24/7
"Love is one of the greatest experiences of the human condition. But it’s also a lot of work, and society makes that work tougher than it needs to be." Check out the rest of the article on Elite Daily! … [Read more...]
The texting mistake most guys make
Text game isn’t really an effective strategy to get girls attracted to you. It’s designed for one thing: to get her face to face with you again. After you met when you got her number either in person or online,she feels some way towards you on. Let’s put it on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being she has no interest and it was a pity number, and 10 being she wants to have your babies. If she’s not flirty back, doesn’t ask any questions, or doesn’t drive the conversation, then you have to guess she is somewhere between a 3-6. A 1 or 2 wouldn’t respond, would reject you, or be extremely curt. A … [Read more...]
What does it take to be a man?
There's a lot out there in self-help media for men and popular culture about what it takes to be a man. I have a simple definition for this that I recently heard from an interview with Tucker Max, and I agree 100%. Reach between your legs. What do you feel? If you have a dick, you're a man. It's that simple. If anyone gives you a definition that's more complicated, see if you can identify what their hidden agenda might be. It's most commonly an attempt to do one of two things: 1. Justify their own insecurities Self-acceptance is a rare trait because it takes consistent hard work … [Read more...]
Dealing with discomfort
What I'm about to say is sad, but not very controversial: most people would experience mild discontent with their situation than face the discomfort that’s necessary for improving their lives. People just don't want to tolerate discomfort, even if they have a guarantee it’s temporary. Getting into shape is a prime example. Unhealthy people tend to know that getting into shape requires eating healthy, and physical exercise. The failure to act isn’t caused by a lack of information. It stems from an unwillingness to feel uncomfortable. Eating healthy is uncomfortable. Working out causes … [Read more...]
Oneitis and the 3-Step Cure
Let's talk about oneitis. This should feel familiar to every guy: you fixate on one specific girl, put her on a pedestal, and imagine the mental or logistical hurdles you need to overcome to get her. Often it occurs with a girl who isn't fully sold on you yet, or maybe even has rejected you already. It leads to added pressure and makes it almost impossible to succeed. In his book The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin details the "erotic equation": attraction plus obstacles leads to excitement. Guess what happens when you create this kind of excitement with a woman you aren't in a committed … [Read more...]
78: Jeff Callahan – Become More Compelling
On this episode, we host Jeff Callahan from Become More Compelling to discuss building charisma, advancing your conversation and social skills, approaching women and going on dates, and more. Jeff helps driven, professional people sharpen their social skills and charisma so that they can have more successful careers, relationships, and social lives. Jeff has been featured on INC., Elite Daily, Pick The Brain, The Friend Formula and others. Free Resource for Leverage Podcast listeners: Jeff's Ultimate Guide To Joining & Enjoying Group Conversations Show Notes: On this … [Read more...]
Why Night Club Promoters Typically Have Amazing Game…
What happens to a club promoter’s social life when he leaves that world behind for a regular job? Today we’re checking in with Ben, a Leverage moderator and master networker who has likability down to a science. You may remember Ben from the Leverage Podcast, where he discussed how he got started as a promoter and his approach to meeting women. If you haven’t listened to that episode, check it out. Ben has left the club promoting world but still manages to maintain an amazing social life. He’s back to share with you his insights from his transition. When Ben was a full-time club … [Read more...]
An easy way to step up your style
In Ukraine you must be serious. It's a serious country and colors are not serious. Recently, I've been using a new method to drastically simplify my wardrobe, and getting more compliments than ever. It's the easiest system I've found so far to make fashion (or more accurately, style) easy. But first, why is the way you dress even important? Why should you even care? A lot of men have the misconception that the clothing they wear only matters to “shallow” women, and the women they want to date aren’t “superficial.” They're mistaken for a variety of reasons. If you don’t know how to … [Read more...]
Which is more important: looks or confidence?
I'm 5'8 and almost obese. I've never received attention from women the past year despite becoming more social. 3 years ago, when I was almost 40 pounds slimmer, I took a summer class and I noticed the prettiest girl in class hitting on me. However I was too aloof to notice that she was interested. Why do people keep saying that attracting women relies on confidence when my experience proves otherwise? When people say that being attractive to women relies on confidence, they’re correct. But being attractive isn’t solely about confidence. A healthy sense of confidence isn’t enough to overcome … [Read more...]
What you should know about starting a business
Having multiple streams of income is an important part of living the Leverage Lifestyle, but too many people looking to start a business ask the wrong questions. They try to come up with some crazy niche market that nobody's serving yet because they believe that's what it's going to take to be successful. Or they try to enter a market they know nothing about, instead of figuring out what they already enjoy that people are willing to pay for. Instead, work backwards. Let's start with what do you already know. Ask yourself the following questions: What are you already good at … [Read more...]
How to up your conversation game in less than an hour
Lately it seems like there are two categories of questions I get asked more than anything else: conversation skills and texting. And you could argue that texting questions fall under conversation skills- texting feels like a different language, but all the principles of conversation skills apply to texting. Guys often tell me that their mind goes blank in the middle of a conversation. How do you stop running out of things to say? We all want to know how to make someone feel truly heard and listened to. What if you could provide someone with that rare experience they’re likely to remember … [Read more...]
77: Dan Chang – Advanced Conversation Skills
On this episode, we host Dan Chang from The Friend Formula to discuss conversation skills, small talk, getting out of your head, and more. You’ll learn: Three steps you can start using right away for getting out of your head and into the present moment, no matter how nervous you feel in a conversation How to make someone feel truly heard and listened to- a rare experience they’re likely to remember you for How understanding how coffee filters work can stop you from running out of things to say The Stream of Consciousness exercise to help with that too The transitive effect … [Read more...]
How to put yourself in a position of strength
It's too easy to trap yourself into a position of weakness. If you're struggling to go attract and connect with the caliber of women that you really want, there's a good chance that you're talking yourself out of a position of strength. When you're craving attention or affection, you're in a position of weakness. When you're needy, you're in a position of weakness. When you're trying to convince someone that they should like you, you're definitely in a position of weakness. When you're trying to impress someone, well, you know where I'm going with this. So what should I do … [Read more...]
76: Bryant – BDSM
On this episode, we interview Bryant to discuss BDSM. Brian shares the story of how he escaped the box that society put him into and started living own his own terms How he balances working hard with having a genuine core group of friends How he got into the BDSM and dungeon scene Masculine and feminine energy The dynamics of a dom/sub relationship Misconceptions about the friend zone and how to sexually escalate with friends How to learn about BDSM for beginners … [Read more...]
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