Dating can be a challenge for anyone new or seasoned in the dating world, and if you’ve spent the majority of the last two years in isolation, you might be feeling more in a rut than usual. Whether you’re looking to spice up your dating experience or are finally ready to get back in the game, we got your back. Don’t let fear stop you from finding that special someone, instead read on to learn some new ways to shake up your dating experience.
Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone
What is your approach when it comes to dating? Are you still using the same old pickups that don’t seem to work anymore? Everyone has a comfort zone when it comes to dating, whether using the same date night spots or treating every first date the same. If you’re struggling to secure that second date, that might mean it’s time to retire your dating approach and step out of your comfort zone.
First, get rid of the idea that you have a ‘type’; it’s completely normal to have deal-breakers, but refusing to date someone over things, like hair color or height, limits you from meeting great new people. There are so many benefits of dating someone outside your type. Challenge yourself to date someone outside of your typical type, and you will be surprised by how well it goes.
Second, bars are usually the easiest and most common place to meet potential singles, but if your track record isn’t so great there, you might want to change your location. Single mixers or dating events can seem intimidating but can be beneficial to show you what else is out there. Most importantly, you should learn to meet women going about your everyday life. Remember, doing the same thing will have the same results, so take a chance and shake things up.
Ask Your Friends For Help
Who knows you better than your buddies? Your friends know the ins and outs of you as a person and will have a better idea of what kind of woman you need in your life, so don’t shy away from asking them to set you up. Once they agree, let them know what you’re looking for. Remember, they can only help if you’re transparent, so be honest and let them know any deal breakers to look out for. The set-up might not happen overnight, and it’s fine to ask for updates now and then, but don’t be pushy. Even if you are nervous or not excited about the person you were set up with, challenge yourself to make it a great first date. Your friends are trying to help you, so be appreciative and open to the experience.
Deal With Insecurities
How you present yourself says more about you than you might realize. When you struggle with your overall appearance, your confidence takes a hit, which can have a direct effect on your dating life. Poor self-confidence can put you in a bad mood and your dates will pick up on that energy as well. Pinpointing and addressing the insecurity that is holding you back can make a big difference in your self-esteem, and change your perception of yourself.
For example, hair loss is a common insecurity men over the age of 30 face, as they may encounter hair thinning and hair loss for the first time. Hair loss can begin for many reasons, from health to genetics, and can leave most feeling inadequate or less attractive. But, it doesn’t have to be the end of your dating life. There are a variety of hair loss solutions that can help you regain your mojo, and put those insecurities to bed. Once you can overcome your insecurities, you will see your attitude change overnight, and there is nothing women love more than a confident man.
Take A Break
Dating should be fun, and if you constantly find yourself feeling overwhelmed or stressed, then maybe it’s a sign that it’s time to take a step back from the dating world. It’s normal to experience highs and lows when dating but if you’ve experienced more lows, and are noticing it has a direct impact on your confidence, then take a pause. If dating is hindering your confidence, it affects your mood and self-esteem, which can cause negative thoughts and anxiety. Sometimes taking a break is all we need to do to get out of that dating rut because you come out of it feeling refreshed and restored.
You’re going to have times when you just want to throw in the towel but you shouldn’t let the pressure of finding ‘the one’ take over. Your dating experience is in your hands, so if you feel unhappy or stuck in a cycle of endless bad dates, then take that as a sign to shake things up and get yourself out of your dating rut.
