Do looks matter when you’re trying to get a girlfriend?
How to maximize your chances of landing a hot girlfriend given your looks by fishing in the right ponds…
Before we dive in, let me ask you – Does a woman’s job matter when she’s slipping her panties off in front of you for the first time?
Only if you’re an adult entertainment casting director and you’re meeting her for the first time on your casting couch.
If you’re worried about your looks, realize that women care about how you look just as much as you care about her job as you’re smashing her doggy style. I’m not trying to claim that your looks don’t matter at all, but you can certainly succeed and get a girlfriend without being a Calvin Klein Model.
We’ve all seen the fat, ugly dude who shows up to the party with a smoke show, and thought: “What the hell is she doing with him?”
Then we’ll conclude that he must be rich and she’s only with him for his money.
Us guys are visual creatures and when we’re selecting candidates to sleep with, jerk off to or fantasize a future life about, looks are the first thing on our mind. But women don’t operate in the same exact way.
Did you know that more women read romance novels than men watch adult content (p0rn)? Crazy right? The popularity of this genre point to something deeper than looks.
So when we take a look under the hood, and really see what’s going on, she’s probably with him because he actually has something to offer that is far more valuable than simply looks and money.
That “something” is called emotional connection and your ability to nail this will help you get a girlfriend more than anything.
The fat, ugly dude who walked in with the smokeshow nailed the emotional connection factor 99 times out of 100.
So what about all the really good looking guys you see with really good looking women? His looks might have gotten him in the door but it’s the emotional connection that made her fall in love and stick around.
Believe it or not, when we really take a look at which guys are dating and banging all the 10’s, you’ll be surprised to see that it’s not the good looking guys very often. Most of my high school friends who were really hot and got all the chicks back then, are now married to 7’s at best.
This is due to what I call the “Curse of the Good Looking Guy”… When guys at a young age are really good looking, they don’t have to put in much effort to get young hot girls because young women care way more about looks. But when women mature, they start to realize that the other factors, what I refer to as the “fundamentals”, matter a lot more.
The ability to create an emotional connection is the highest on the fundamentals list. Nothing matters more when it comes to attraction and falling in love. Looks certainly help to cultivate arousal and desire, but it cannot build an emotional connection.
What are fundamentals?
Fundamentals include the bigger things about you including what type of person you are, your values, your confidence, your personality and your ability to make an emotional impact on someone.
This is what we teach in our Leverage Program. We focus on improving your fundamentals which leads to landing a hot girlfriend without even trying. So if you’re not handsome enough to be in a GQ magazine or built enough to be an underwear model, you can make up for it by being awesome and having a GQ type personality!
So now that we know the truth about looks and understand that they matter more depending on the age and maturity level of a woman, what should we do?
Regardless of how old we are, we should do everything in our power to maximize our looks because it’s the best way to create a solid first impression. Depending on our bone structure and height, we will inevitably hit our limit. When I started my journey of personal development at age 23, I was probably a 5 out of 10. I’m 5”10, or 178cm, I don’t have a super chiseled jawline, I started losing my hair at age 19, and I was about 30 pounds overweight. I still looked decent in clothes because I could hide my belly and I occasionally hooked up with pretty cute girls.
But in order to maximize my appearance I got in great physical shape, I found a solution for my thinning hair and I learned to dress sharp. These improvements took my to my max physical attractiveness level which is somewhere between a 7 and 8 out of 10.
Even after all of that hard work, I still had very little luck using online dating apps like Tinder.
Looks matter way more depending on your method of meeting women! I cannot overstate the importance of this enough!
I speak to frustrated men all the time who all tell me they’re having very little luck using online dating and they can’t figure out why. They took professional photos, wrote killer bios and even worked with match makers but with very little results. That’s because women are ONLY judging you based on your looks on these platforms and it’s very hard to compete for the 10’s if you’re at best a 7.
I hate to break it to you but there are just too many good looking guys online and it’s really tough to compete.
So if you’re like me, my advice is to learn to meet women during the day. Nothing has created more success for myself or my clients. If you enjoy nightlife, then meeting women at bars and clubs can be a ton of fun too. When you meet women in person you can use all of your fundamental tools to your advantage.
Here are the best 3 ways:
- Attract her with witty banter and having the balls to approach.
- Roll out with a crew of beautiful women and get the hottest girl in any bar by using social proof.
- Host cool parties, build a social circle and meet amazing women through your new network.
These strategies CRUSH online dating all day. They take a lot more work and effort to cultivate of course, but the rewards are exponential in comparison.
If you need help, check out this page with the exact steps on how to accomplish this.
Happy hunting!
-Robbie
